When you’re positive they’re profiting from your kindness, but you are feeling dangerous for standing up for your self.

Posted On Sep 26, 2019 By admin With Comments Off

30M Nurses Assistant, divorced from my 28 F stay at home ex wife after she decided to leave me for a 18 M McDonald’s worker. Our divorce was finalise approximately 5 months ago after get married for essentially 6 months and living together for 3 years. I was always the “bread winner” having a job in the medical study and her living off alimony from her previous marriage( a crane hustler/ construction worker ), or federal income for her disabled uncle she’s the care giver for. During the divorce procedure I obstinately stayed in the house with her and my stepson as I has no such where else to go living in a state I moved to with the rest of their own families back home. During that time I was living with them I was nonsensical enough to pay for our shared monies ontop of a newly added rent fee. Thankfully we agreed to not having me pay for alimony or anything like that after the divorce, so technically speaking anything I paid under her afterwards was by my discretion and kindness.

Fast forward 4 months after the divorce I’ve moved back to my kinfolks and yet till recently still determined myself paying for her Car insurance, a medical bill for her LASIK eye surgeries, and our laptops I obtained at the same time with a Best Buy credit card. My family and friends have helped me through the steps of recovery while encouraging me to stop paying for her Auto insurance and her medical greenback as it was a financial inconvenience on me living paycheck to paycheck on empty promises on her responsibility about “ve got something” to take over them eventually. I was there for her after her previous divorce, where she go out the alimony coin to the end without barely doing anything looking for a job as she doesn’t have a GED. She claimed to be trying to get her GED while finding a job these last marry months but I along with everyone backing me up feel she’s taking advantage of my kindness knowing I’d pay for things till I went bankrupt as a sense of “duty”.

That dissolved today when I went to the bank and asked for them to cancel any future payments for her medical invoice and changed my auto insurance to not include her anymore. As I strolled out of that bank I felt a sense of aid as additional burdens hoisted off my shoulders, all the while a feeling of dread at what may happen to what was once my family with the contributed monetary stress I really dumped on them. Barely could thank the bank employee my thanks for calling as sobbings threatened to escape, didn’t even make it to the doors before they did. Why is it that I have to feel like a moron for returning my future priority despite knowing that my past will scarcely if at all make it from here on? It’s now that I became a little more aware of how “shes had” me being abused in more highways then I initially realized.

Apologies for the slight emotional drop, just felt like sharing this important step towards my convalescence from my divorce.

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