When Grandparents Say You’re ‘Using Your Child As A Pawn’

Almost five years ago, I uttered the decision to cut off my own mother from myself and my children, and since then, I’ve campaigned tirelessly to uphold parental rights within the courts against grandparents’ visitation right suits( also known as third party visitation right lawsuits ). I’ve Googled, I have read article after section — and mostly, when you gaze this up, you come to the general consensus that parents are evil and use their boys as “pawns” against grandparents or third parties who” only want to see the adolescents .” There are very few( if any) dissenting minds, so I decided to write my feelings down.

The ultimate call to battle in grandparents’ rights groups is the complaint of adult children using their children( the grandchildren) as “pawns.” It’s like the grandparents who say this believe that this is a game( as playthings generally come from a game of chess) and they’re being sustain from their award so the parents can win the “game.” Some even say that this is ” child abuse” and “elder abuse.” Let’s discuss the issue, shall we?

From a parent’s point of view who has been accused of such things, I will tell you truthfully that protecting your children from abuse, of various kinds, is not using your child as a plaything. Never heard a grandparent say they’re” so depressed, they need to see the babe to encourage them up ?” This is feeling insult. My child is not your quantity of Xanax, lady, and is not responsible for your mental health issues. There’s also oral ill-treatment, and sometimes even physical. I’ll say it again: protecting your child from an abuser( or abusive action) is not using your child as a pawn.

Protecting your child is literally one of “the worlds largest” primal inclinations one can have. If your baby or mother-in-law doesn’t hesitate to verbally lash you, whether in front of you or in private, then why do you think she will be kind to your children? Even if she is related to that child, she has expressed disdain and hatred for( or even “disappointment” in) one of these children’s mothers, which literally establishes up 50% of that child’s DNA. Again, for the ones in the back: if they hate you, or dislike you, or express disappointment towards you, they are frankly trying to tell me that they shun 50% of your child’s DNA. Protecting your child from these sorts of beings is not” have them as a pawn .” It’s not video games; it’s your child’s sentiments, mental health issues, and overall happiness.

Jetzt, let’s dive a bit deeper, shall we? You don’t think that the grandparent in question would be unkind or abusive to the child … they just hate you, the child’s mother. After all, that’s why they’re accusing you of” employing your child as a plaything ,” and even abuse by withholding “their childrens” from the grandparent, right?