coworker is writing a dissertation on our boss being a narcissist, utilizing social media feedback to get a job, and extra

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This post, coworker is writing a dissertation on our boss being a narcissist, consuming social media comments to get a job, and more, was originally published by Alison Green on Ask a Manager.

It’s five answers to five questions. Now we go…

1. Coworker pictures our director is a narcissist and is doing her essay on it

I am part of a very small team, it’s precisely me, my colleague, and our manager. Our manager( John) superseded our previous director( Pete) at the beginning of this year. My colleague( Sarah) and Pete are really good friends, and Sarah was quite unhappy when he was replaced. It was necessary due to slip-ups he made, though.

Sarah and John do not like one another. Harmonizing to Sarah, John was shooting for Pete’s position and used vile tricks to get it. I was unaware of it and I exclusively have her oath for it. They have been previously clashed due to communication methods and personality differences. Sarah says he does not fit in with the culture. Our office has a really unwound culture and booze often plays a role, but John doesn’t drink and is seen as stuck-up.

I have not had the same suffers with John. I think he is a really good manager. He might not go out and drink wine with us, but he sanctions me and he listening to me. I receive him as more of a instructor than a manager.

Sarah recently started assuring a analyst, and apparently her psychiatrist considerations our administrator is a narcissist.( Can a analyst diagnose person like that? Is it even morally acceptable ?) She rendered Sarah some materials to read, and Sarah agrees with the diagnosis. Sarah is getting a psychology measure and decided to do her dissertation on narcissists in the workplace. She’s very excited about it and croaks around telling everyone about it, likewise saying she got the idea after months of privation. Everyone is aware she doesn’t get along with John, and it isn’t that difficult to figure out she might be referring to him.

Sarah did go to HR about her unhappiness, and she is being moved to another character in “the organizations activities”. I am unpleasant with her dissertation, though. Obviously in her private faculty she knows how realise the subject whatever she wants to, but implying that he is a narcissist without any real proof doesn’t feel good. Can I do something about it? Must I caution John? Go to HR?

Dear lord. Sarah sounds like a problem in numerou spaces( including saying someone’s not a culture fit because they don’t drink — !?). Regrettably, I don’t think you’re well positioned to do much about it, but it sure wouldn’t hurt to let John know what’s happening so he can figure out if he needs to do anything to protect himself. It also wouldn’t hurt to tip off HR and give them know you’ve had excellent ordeals with John so far. Sarah sounds like she’s truly out to make John down, and there’s value in HR hearing another point of view.

Also, when you discover Sarah badmouthing John, ideally you’d speak up and say, “That hasn’t been my own experience with John at all. I’ve learnt him to be a really good manager.” It’s beneficial for her to get that pushback, and it’s even more useful for the people she’s talking to to know that Sarah’s viewpoint isn’t universally shared.

( And no, ethical analysts will not diagnose someone they haven’t treated .)

2. Trying to mobilize social media comments to get a job

A professional relationship( we work for different agencies in the same state government, and have had a couple discourses at incidents for a professional organization we both is a matter for) is applying for a new job with another state agency. He affixed a comment on the agency’s LinkedIn post announcing the job opening and said that he had applied, and since then he’s been reaching out to seemingly everyone he knows asking them to like his criticism and share a comment of their own on that LinkedIn post with their carry. So far, he has amassed more than 150 remarks in support.

He’s just reached out to me asking for a like and a comment as well. Because we work in government, hiring is supposed to be strictly merit-based and this kind of crowdsourced social media subscribe is not something a hiring manager can consider when making a hiring decision. I find the whole thing highly unseemly, and even if I wanted to support him I’ve never worked with him and I certainly wouldn’t be able to speak to any of his diplomata. How should I develop a response — and what should I think of everyone I know who has started along with this and posted specific comments in his support?

This is an quirky approach. Even outside of government, when hiring managers could theoretically take these sorts of social media foundation into account, hiring isn’t a popularity struggle where the person who gets the most likes on their observe winnings the job. And in a lot of organizations the people doing the hiring are completely separate from the people doing the social media and wouldn’t even know this was happening … and if they did, it might get a candidate noticed in a bad way.

Anyway. You could just reject the request. It doesn’t sounds like the two of you talk much, so I don’t think you need to give an explanation. As for what to think of the people who have gone along with it … probably just that they wanted to do a feel-good kind of thing for him without being particularly invested in whether it was a good or bad idea.

3. Our company will recoup us for technology acquisitions … in seven months

Our company has been fully remote for a full time, and in that time, employees have been on our own to figure out what to do about office supplies needed to do our undertakings. Then today, our HR team sent out an email related to this that I’m sure they experience was well-intentioned, but exactly feels like a slap in the face.

The large-scale notice is that the firm is providing all staff a $250 technology reimbursement to be used towards office supplies, and supported a roster of appropriate entries, such as printers, paper/ ink, keyboards/ mice, headsets, chairs, and laptop stands.

However, this comes with two major caveats. The first is that this does not apply retroactively to anything that we may have already purchased, and the second is that we will not be reimbursed this coin until NOVEMBER of this year, although they could not say exactly when. The rules essentially said, hold on to the the revenues and we’ll let you know when it’s time to submit them.

At this place, many of us have already wasted quite a bit out of pocket for necessary parts, and are now being told that it will merely were eligible for items obtained going forward. Frankly, I don’t need anything anymore — I already bought a mouse, printer, ink, article, etc ., all so I could do my job when they didn’t provide us with any initial guidance.

I am sure they are expecting an outpouring of gratitude, but it feels like too little, too late. Additionally, what if folks can’t yield to hover the company $ 250 without refunded for eight months? It just seems super out of touch. At this degree, I don’t even want to take advantage of it because it feels super sketchy and inadequately thought out, and I’m worried we’ll get to November and they will reject my repayment claim for some reason, and then I’ll be out of pocket for something I wouldn’t have consequently bought. What do you think?

Yeah, this is crappy. As you noted, people who needed those pieces probably once bought them on their own; ideally they’d be willing to reimburse you for those working. And asking you to wait until November to get reimbursed for purchases now … what if you’re no longer working there in November?

Your employer is saving a great deal of money by not having hires on-site, and they’ve apparently altered the cost of equipment and plies over to you as well … and now are acquiring it more difficult than it needs to be to get some of that repaid. It’s a bad arrangment.

4. Client always spells my word wrong

I work at a company that services many local and national clients. One of the clients in my portfolio onboarded with our companionship a year ago and I have had any number of communications with various representatives regarding their special division of the business.

There is one client representative who has spelled my epithet incorrectly every … single … hour they communicate with me.

My name is pretty common, picture Michelle or Sarah, but they always spell my epithet with the alternative spelling, fantasize Michele/ Sara. The correct and more common spelling of my word is in my signature. In addition, I am duplicated on letter where others have spelled my epithet properly and yet this person still addresses me with the alternative spelling of my name.

This client is VERY important to my company’s bottom line and it has been said more than formerly that they are the ones continuing the doors open, so I ought to have indecisive to make a stink about what should be a non-issue … but it is my NAME! Would it be bad form after a year to tell this person they have been spelling my appoint wrong? I don’t want to cause issues with my companionship if this person gets offended, but after a year, it kills me a little bit every time I realise my word misspelled in letter wish to refer to me because I feel like that isn’t me if that reaches sense.

There’s no mischief in “by the way, it’s Sarah( with an h )! ” But if that doesn’t get through, you’re better off trying to let it roll off of you. As someone whose name is constantly misspelled, my quality of life is way better from simply deciding not to care about it. Some beings are bad with words or bad at spelling, or they know someone who spells it the other way and so it’s locked in their front that way.

This is a client , not a marriage or a mother or someone else who you’d presumably expect to be invested in getting it right.

5. What does it means that a chore I’m interviewing for keeps getting reposted?

I applied for an open entry-level position through LinkedIn about a week ago. I successfully went through the phone interview and scheduled an in-person interview later this week( yay !). I noticed on LinkedIn that this job has been reposted a second time, and now that post is no longer taking applications. Now I’ve realize they affixed the opening again for a third duration. What does this want?

No good will come from trying to read anything into that. It could just be that they keep their job postings active until its own position is filled( which is very common ), and sporadically refresh them during that time so they don’t inspect stale( also common ). Or who knows, perhaps they aren’t completely satisfied with their candidate pool and want to increase it — which wouldn’t certainly mark nothing about the strength of your candidacy since most hiring administrators want to have various strong applicants in the assortment. Basically, it’s inconceivable to know what’s behind it from the outside, and there’s no site in trying to parse it out; this sort of thing will drive you out of your gourd if you dwell on it too much.

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