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00:00:00:21 - 00:00:05:04 \nRamit \nYou are spending the most amount of money we pay for our kids college. \n \n00:00:05:06 - 00:00:09:13 \nMia \nIf you say, well, give yourselves more money and don't give money to the kids, that feels selfish. \n \n00:00:09:14 - 00:00:12:12 \nJake \nGrowing up in the Midwest, you just save money than you die and you give it to your kids. \n \n00:00:12:12 - 00:00:20:12 \nMia \nMy anxiety increases because a budget has always been really hard for me. There's always this tension of, you know, we can't even go out to dinner this week. \n \n00:00:20:13 - 00:00:23:20 \nJake \nI feel like this pressure, just like I'm like, gosh, here we go. \n \n00:00:23:21 - 00:00:26:10 \nRamit \nYou are now spending more than you make every. \n \n00:00:26:14 - 00:00:27:16 \nJake \nIt explains the savings. \n \n00:00:27:17 - 00:00:29:07 \nRamit \nHow's that feel to you? \n \n00:00:29:08 - 00:00:30:00 \nMia \nScary. \n \n00:00:30:01 - 00:00:34:01 \nJake \nThat's why we're here. I just want someone to put their arm around me and say, sign. This is what you're supposed to do. \n \n00:00:34:02 - 00:00:45:11 \nRamit \nThat person doesn't exist. What if, instead of following that feeling, I followed the numbers by connection, by conversation, and by a rich live vision. \n \n00:00:45:13 - 00:00:52:19 \nJake \nIn 20 years, I don't want them flying to California to have your kid tell them about money. \n \n00:00:52:21 - 00:01:15:13 \nRamit \nYou know, in America, we do some pretty funny things with our money. In the name of the kids, extracurriculars, huge birthday parties, SUV when they are two months old. And college, of course has to be fully funded. Now, I don't have a problem with any of those things, as long as they are intentional and as long as you ran the numbers. \n \n00:01:15:15 - 00:01:35:11 \nRamit \nThe problem, of course, is almost nobody does that. Most parents simply follow a script, and that script often costs them their own financial future. Today I'm talking to Mia and Jake. She's 40. He's 38. They've been married for four years. They have a blended family with three children, two from Mia's previous relationship and one child that they share together. \n \n00:01:35:11 - 00:01:57:24 \nRamit \nAnd this idea of paying for their kids college is causing resentment between them. Mia applied, and here's what she wrote. I don't think either of us realized how difficult it was going to be to create a stepfamily. Money is a real sticking point because my ex-husband does not contribute very much, and I want to provide my kids with what I can because we're able to. \n \n00:01:58:01 - 00:02:35:12 \nRamit \nOkay. Pretty complex situation. How would you reconcile this if you were sitting in my chair? Let me show you the numbers so you have a little bit more information. Assets 443,000. Investments zero. That's interesting. Savings 13,900. Low with three kids. Debt 176,410. Total net worth $280,490. Okay. Fixed costs at 50%. Very nice investments at 22%. I'm confused because their investments above are at zero. \n \n00:02:35:18 - 00:02:54:03 \nRamit \nNot sure what to make of that savings at 25%, which is quite high. Guilt free spending at 3%. I don't believe that. Honestly, I'm kind of confused by their numbers. They're very perplexing, so I need to talk to them to figure out what's going on. And I have a lot of questions. Let's get started with Mia and Jake. \n \n00:02:54:05 - 00:03:15:21 \nRamit \nMia, you wrote the application, and in the application you wrote something I wanted to ask you about. You said our values are mostly aligned and we have a plan with our money. But when it comes to implementing it, I feel resentment from my husband that a big chunk of our money goes to support my two kids, who are not his biological kids. \n \n00:03:15:23 - 00:03:18:22 \nRamit \nIs that an accurate reason for why you're here today? \n \n00:03:18:23 - 00:03:43:03 \nMia \nI think that Jake and I really do agree on our values. Like like this is what we want to do. But in the implementation of it, the reality is that a big chunk of our money is going to make up for the fact that I didn't plan and save earlier when my two biological kids, our oldest kids, were younger. \n \n00:03:43:04 - 00:04:11:11 \nMia \nThere's always this tension of like, well, I just, you know, we can't even go out to dinner this week, right? And I'm like, oh, that's true. No we can't. And then there's some guilt that I feel, and I don't think that there's any resentment about me or like our values because, like, we've agreed to it. But there's this like underlying tension that I'm afraid we'll get worse if we don't sort of come to a place where where that underlying resentment is gone. \n \n00:04:11:12 - 00:04:39:15 \nJake \nYeah. I mean, I think that it's not resentment. I think it's just frustration would probably be the the better term for it. You know, I'm making more money than I ever have. I've gotten my job that I've really been trying to get. That's given us a lot more money. You know, my ideal life would be, you know, being able to go out to eat without thinking about it, you know, like, that's kind of like my rich, rich life is like being able to buy a few things here and there without being very stressed about things and not thinking about money, which I know is not a realistic thing, but I mean, just even walking around \n \n00:04:39:15 - 00:04:51:01 \nJake \nhere, you know, just yesterday I was like, wow, these are the things we could buy with all the money that we're putting into to school. But I don't resent Mia or anything in the kids or what they were doing. That's where they were at their time. \n \n00:04:51:01 - 00:04:56:10 \nRamit \nAnd when you say walking around here yesterday. These are the things we could buy. What's an example of that? \n \n00:04:56:10 - 00:05:15:13 \nJake \nI'm noticing that a lot of my rich life revolves around our house and our idea of like, making it a really great spot for us and the kids, and it's our forever home, hopefully. And that's ideas of maybe getting a hot tub or getting landscaping done. We put a fire pit in and I was like, oh, you know, if we just put like one of the kids tuitions, you know, would be able to do it in a couple of months. \n \n00:05:15:13 - 00:05:17:07 \nJake \nSo it's like that kind of thinking. \n \n00:05:17:08 - 00:05:19:12 \nRamit \nGot it. Did you have this conversation today or yesterday? \n \n00:05:19:13 - 00:05:20:23 \nJake \nYesterday. Yeah, yeah, just walking around. \n \n00:05:20:24 - 00:05:36:10 \nMia \nI think the exact comment was man in. If we just took the money that we were spending on college in eight months, we could do a hot tub and probably start on the landscaping. And I literally don't know what we were walking by. \n \n00:05:36:12 - 00:05:38:08 \nJake \nProbably a landscaping hot tub store. \n \n00:05:38:09 - 00:05:43:10 \nRamit \nSo yeah. Yeah, there's one. Right? Right. Yeah. And what was your reaction to that when you heard that? \n \n00:05:43:11 - 00:05:52:03 \nMia \nI think my general reaction is just to be quiet, like I think internally. Like I don't even think I said anything. I think I maybe laughed when I was like, yeah, yeah. \n \n00:05:52:04 - 00:05:53:21 \nRamit \nHow long are the two of you been married? \n \n00:05:54:01 - 00:05:55:14 \nMia \nSo just over four years. \n \n00:05:55:16 - 00:05:58:17 \nRamit \nYeah. Okay. For years. And how many children total? \n \n00:05:58:21 - 00:05:59:13 \nMia \nThree. \n \n00:05:59:14 - 00:06:00:04 \nRamit \nThree kids. \n \n00:06:00:04 - 00:06:04:07 \nMia \nThat's two from my previous marriage. And then we have a daughter together. \n \n00:06:04:08 - 00:06:06:21 \nRamit \nHow old is your daughter? Three. Three. Okay, great. \n \n00:06:06:22 - 00:06:09:12 \nJake \nAnd we're spending a fortune on her preschool right now, too. \n \n00:06:09:13 - 00:06:09:23 \nRamit \nReally? \n \n00:06:09:24 - 00:06:10:06 \nMia \nYeah. \n \n00:06:10:07 - 00:06:14:03 \nRamit \nYes. Oh, okay. And how about the two other children? How old are they? \n \n00:06:14:04 - 00:06:15:13 \nMia \n14 and 11. \n \n00:06:15:14 - 00:06:16:24 \nRamit \nOh, okay. That's good to know. \n \n00:06:17:00 - 00:06:31:11 \nJake \nAnd can I just clarify one thing, too? Yeah, it's one of these weird things. It's like, I know what's best for the kids in our family and investing in their school. And it's like, I think it's the right thing to do, but I'm not sure. And that's kind of why we're here. It's just like we want to, you know. \n \n00:06:31:12 - 00:06:32:16 \nMia \nThe background, the balance. \n \n00:06:32:20 - 00:06:33:20 \nJake \nIt feels off. Yeah. \n \n00:06:33:21 - 00:06:35:16 \nRamit \nIt's like we balance of what. \n \n00:06:35:18 - 00:06:39:06 \nMia \nThe money we're putting towards the kids versus the money we're putting towards the things. \n \n00:06:39:06 - 00:06:43:10 \nJake \nThat and like our savings is probably not where we want it either. We want more money in our savings to. \n \n00:06:43:11 - 00:06:46:01 \nRamit \nOkay. Hold on. What's what's off with the balance? \n \n00:06:46:02 - 00:07:16:06 \nMia \nWe're really emphasizing as much money as possible towards the kids between saving for college and the our youngest preschool. And so like our daily spending or like sort of like our guilt free spending is like really minimal and that doesn't feel sustainable. But also like if you say like, well, give yourself more money and don't give money to the kids, that feels like selfish. \n \n00:07:16:08 - 00:07:19:02 \nJake \nYeah. You agree? I would agree with that. Yeah. \n \n00:07:19:03 - 00:07:23:11 \nRamit \nOkay. That's interesting. Do the two of you make decisions about money? \n \n00:07:23:12 - 00:07:24:24 \nMia \nDo you mean together? \n \n00:07:25:01 - 00:07:31:19 \nRamit \nWell, that kind of answers my question, right? No. Yeah. Let's start with together. Do you make decisions together about money? \n \n00:07:31:20 - 00:07:40:24 \nMia \nI would say big picture. Yes. Although I'm not sure that we've always been doing that. It's not something we think about a lot. \n \n00:07:41:00 - 00:07:42:16 \nRamit \nOkay. Do you agree or disagree? \n \n00:07:42:17 - 00:07:54:21 \nJake \nYeah I would, I would agree that it's been something that we haven't talked a bunch about. I've always enjoyed. Just like we're just we save a bunch of money. You die with a bunch of money. That's that's what happens. Oh. \n \n00:07:55:01 - 00:07:55:23 \nRamit \nYou grew up in the Midwest? \n \n00:07:55:24 - 00:08:00:19 \nJake \nYes. Yes, yes. I guess I'd grown up in the Midwest. You just saved money. Then you die and you give it to your kids. \n \n00:08:00:20 - 00:08:06:03 \nRamit \nYeah. How did the conversations about money and kids typically go? \n \n00:08:06:04 - 00:08:12:16 \nMia \nI usually say something like, so we have to do the budget. \n \n00:08:12:17 - 00:08:16:00 \nRamit \nOkay. And what is your reaction to that, Jake? \n \n00:08:16:01 - 00:08:20:24 \nJake \nJust anxiety and and anger. Anger probably. \n \n00:08:21:04 - 00:08:23:11 \nRamit \nI feel anger too when I hear that word. Yes, yes. \n \n00:08:23:12 - 00:08:47:11 \nMia \nI probably my anxiety increases because to be completely honest like that has a budget has always been really hard for me. Like I, it's hard for me to like wrap my head around like, what are the right buckets to think about? And so I'm trying to explain, thinking like, here's my thinking, Jake. Here's what I think we should do. \n \n00:08:47:13 - 00:09:10:00 \nMia \nBut it's probably not making a lot of sense because I barely understand it. I just know, like money is going out and it's probably more than we should have going out. And then Jake's like, well, but what about this? And then which is usually a super reasonable question. I'm like, I don't know, you know. And so then I get stressed and then he gets stressed. \n \n00:09:10:00 - 00:09:12:06 \nRamit \nAnd then where do the kids come into this? \n \n00:09:12:12 - 00:09:13:10 \nMia \nAs in. \n \n00:09:13:11 - 00:09:21:21 \nRamit \nLike the primary question today is we sending too much right towards our kids. And this is a source of potential conflict where the kids come in. \n \n00:09:21:21 - 00:09:37:14 \nMia \nI would say my default is to treat that money as if it doesn't exist. Maybe like where the kids come in is if we it's like, well, what if we spent a little more money here? And then my response to that is like, we don't have that. \n \n00:09:37:15 - 00:09:45:02 \nRamit \nGot it. So the kids money is sacred, like it does not exist. Non-negotiable. Got it. Yes. Are you open to changing that? \n \n00:09:45:03 - 00:09:46:13 \nMia \nI'm open to it. \n \n00:09:46:18 - 00:10:15:09 \nRamit \nJust imagine if Jake had said I don't want to send a single sent to your kids. That would be incredibly complicated to unravel. But fortunately, they do seem to have similar values. So now the question becomes, with a blended family, how do we decide the right amount of help to give? And I am starting to suspect they have only thought about help in terms of how big of a check they can, right? \n \n00:10:15:10 - 00:10:28:22 \nRamit \nBut there are a lot of other ways you can help kids to. And Jake, what about you? Like when the you mentioned like, hey, can we spend a little bit more eating out or doing x, y, z? And she says, well, we can't. What's your reaction? \n \n00:10:28:22 - 00:10:45:12 \nJake \nIt's like confusion because I'm making more money than I've ever made in my life. A little backstory, like when we first got together, we bought a huge house that was great. Everything on our is like ten out of ten wishlist. Perfect. Oh, I had a big truck trying to act really tough. You know that tough guy? You know, that's that's what I needed. \n \n00:10:45:18 - 00:10:46:00 \nRamit \nI didn't. \n \n00:10:46:00 - 00:10:46:17 \nJake \nKnow this. Yeah. \n \n00:10:46:18 - 00:10:48:14 \nRamit \nSo this is when you got married? Yes. \n \n00:10:48:15 - 00:10:59:12 \nMia \nIt was like. So we're both. This is both of our second marriage. And I think we were both, like, so happy to have happiness. We were just like, let's just like, spend. Let's have everything that we'd ever. \n \n00:10:59:12 - 00:11:00:15 \nJake \nI don't know how we survive. \n \n00:11:00:16 - 00:11:02:05 \nRamit \nSo you bought a how big is the house? \n \n00:11:02:06 - 00:11:03:22 \nJake \nWas that. It was. It was. \n \n00:11:03:23 - 00:11:05:16 \nMia \nLike a almost 4000ft\u00b2. \n \n00:11:05:17 - 00:11:06:09 \nRamit \nHoly. \n \n00:11:06:11 - 00:11:06:21 \nJake \nYeah. \n \n00:11:06:22 - 00:11:07:22 \nMia \nThree car garage. \n \n00:11:07:23 - 00:11:10:02 \nRamit \nThat's for two of you and a little baby. \n \n00:11:10:03 - 00:11:10:16 \nMia \nYeah, well. \n \n00:11:10:16 - 00:11:11:12 \nJake \nAnd the time. \n \n00:11:11:16 - 00:11:18:24 \nRamit \nBabies need space. Yes. 4000 square foot. Okay, so then you bought the truck. What kind of truck? \n \n00:11:19:03 - 00:11:27:02 \nJake \nToyota tundra. And I didn't stop there. I got I spent $3,000 on rims because that's what you need at 35. \n \n00:11:27:04 - 00:11:28:21 \nRamit \nTotally. How much is it? Tundra? \n \n00:11:28:23 - 00:11:32:15 \nJake \nI like 50,000. Something like that. It was great. \n \n00:11:32:17 - 00:11:34:18 \nRamit \nPaul. Yeah. Okay. So then what else did you get? \n \n00:11:34:19 - 00:11:35:03 \nJake \nI mean. \n \n00:11:35:04 - 00:11:36:16 \nMia \nI mean like new furniture. \n \n00:11:36:17 - 00:11:41:05 \nRamit \nFurniture like. So you had the house, the truck, etc.. Yeah, it sounds like this is. \n \n00:11:41:05 - 00:11:56:21 \nJake \nAnd then and then. Yeah. And then we kind of started talking about finances and that's what kind of got us into it. And then through conversations, we decided that the house is a money pit and we didn't I mean, not a money. It was just we're probably house broke at that point. \n \n00:11:56:22 - 00:11:57:04 \nRamit \nWow. \n \n00:11:57:05 - 00:12:16:01 \nJake \nSo we sold the house $200,000. House cheaper. Same neighborhood. It feels so much more like us. It's fantastic. We sold my truck. We have one car that we had. Two cars paid off. We had to get a bigger car just recently because. \n \n00:12:16:04 - 00:12:16:12 \nMia \nThe four. \n \n00:12:16:16 - 00:12:18:03 \nJake \nOf our kids are now. \n \n00:12:18:05 - 00:12:21:24 \nRamit \nBut, like, how long to make the decision to sell the house? That's a huge decision. \n \n00:12:21:24 - 00:12:37:22 \nMia \nIt was a big decision. But I feel like we just looked at each other and we were like we were we were so housebroken. And it just seemed like, why are we doing this? Because it wasn't like neither of us were attached to it. We were like, if there's something that we can change, like, what can we change? \n \n00:12:37:23 - 00:12:39:24 \nMia \nAnd to be like. \n \n00:12:40:01 - 00:12:40:06 \nJake \nYeah. \n \n00:12:40:07 - 00:12:52:03 \nMia \nCredit to our credit to our parents. Both of us were taught from a young age like, do not go into debt other than for a house. So like, we didn't have other debt. So it was sort of like, okay, if we have money to play with, this is it. It's like the house. \n \n00:12:52:03 - 00:12:54:23 \nRamit \nWhat was this sign that you were house poor? \n \n00:12:54:24 - 00:12:55:19 \nJake \nI mean, this was probably. \n \n00:12:55:19 - 00:12:57:09 \nMia \nWere thinking about every penny. \n \n00:12:57:11 - 00:12:58:03 \nJake \nYeah. And we. \n \n00:12:58:03 - 00:13:15:10 \nMia \nWere that's when I was doing, like, the spreadsheet. And it wasn't just like it wasn't big idea numbers. It was like we spent $12.37 at donut getting donuts for the kids. Like, we cannot spend that. It was. Yeah. \n \n00:13:15:11 - 00:13:18:10 \nRamit \nHow would you describe money felt at that time? \n \n00:13:18:12 - 00:13:22:19 \nMia \nIt was horrible. It just felt like being strangled. \n \n00:13:22:20 - 00:13:23:23 \nRamit \nRight? Wow. \n \n00:13:24:00 - 00:13:36:00 \nJake \nWell, like, we've even, like, we had a big house gym that we worked out in. It was lots of expensive things that I'd been collecting during Covid. Sold all that, like Planet Fitness is a bunch of weirdos, but it's still pretty good. \n \n00:13:36:02 - 00:13:38:04 \nRamit \nHow did it feel to just sell all that stuff? \n \n00:13:38:07 - 00:13:52:01 \nMia \nIt felt good. Good. Again, we got married. We were so happy to have happiness, spent all the money. And then it was like feeling like, okay, now we're making smart decisions. It was almost like we had an entire relationship in like three years. \n \n00:13:52:02 - 00:14:13:14 \nRamit \nWell, what I appreciate about this is I don't mind people making decisions about money, even mistakes about money. We all make mistakes, I make them, we all make them. What I really appreciate is that you caught it, and you took a dispassionate look at the numbers and you were like, this does not work. We got to make a change. \n \n00:14:13:14 - 00:14:27:20 \nRamit \nIf you actually build that skill, of course, correcting, you can actually go through life making a lot of mistakes because you're like, let me move fast knowing that if something goes wrong, I will correct it, learn from it, and I won't make that mistake again. So I'm willing to bet the two of you will never be house poor again. \n \n00:14:27:24 - 00:14:28:20 \nRamit \nYeah, yeah. \n \n00:14:28:21 - 00:14:38:17 \nJake \nAnd that's what I love about Mia is how reflective and honest. 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And now I'm like. \n \n00:18:31:15 - 00:18:42:09 \nMia \nIt's like you weren't saving any. Like we're not saving enough for the kids is like a to some extent, maybe an overcorrection. But again, there's that whole tension about like, well, isn't that the right thing to be saving for? \n \n00:18:42:15 - 00:18:45:14 \nRamit \nWell, isn't a house the right thing to be buying? \n \n00:18:45:16 - 00:18:57:09 \nJake \nYeah. Fair point. Yeah. We don't know what the right answer is. I think that, you know, I keep having someone I just want them to put their arm around me and say, sign. This is what you're supposed to do. You know, it's like, feel free to put your arm around me and tell me. \n \n00:18:57:13 - 00:19:03:01 \nRamit \nThat's actually quite interesting. What if I told you that person doesn't exist? \n \n00:19:03:03 - 00:19:06:16 \nJake \nThat's what I expected. Yeah. Otherwise, yeah. \n \n00:19:06:18 - 00:19:12:20 \nRamit \nIt's not your dad. It's. No. Nobody is going to be that person for you except. \n \n00:19:12:20 - 00:19:13:13 \nJake \nYou, right? \n \n00:19:13:14 - 00:19:14:17 \nRamit \nHow would that strike you? \n \n00:19:14:17 - 00:19:30:10 \nJake \nI know, I say I want somebody to come and put their arm over me, tell me what to do. But I want to be confident in the decisions that we're making, okay? It'll make it easier to not spend that money or do this or make that decision knowing it's in the right spots in our money's worth. You know that term money working for us? \n \n00:19:30:12 - 00:19:37:10 \nJake \nI hear people say that all the time to. I don't know what that means, though. Really? Yeah. I'm serious. \n \n00:19:37:12 - 00:19:38:24 \nRamit \nWhat what do you think it means. \n \n00:19:39:00 - 00:19:47:08 \nJake \nPutting it in the stock market? I don't know, I've just. Yeah. I mean, my Midwest is probably showing right now. Just. You saved money and you put it away and hand it off the next group. \n \n00:19:47:08 - 00:20:10:23 \nMia \nI wonder if part of it is that we get a pension. And so we've never had to think about, like a 401 K, or like, where does the 401 K money go? Like, there was never any conversation about that. I want to understand the idea of a pension. Like I get it conceptually, but on a day to day basis, like should I be, should I be investing more? \n \n00:20:10:23 - 00:20:11:18 \nMia \nI don't know. \n \n00:20:11:24 - 00:20:16:13 \nRamit \nHave you asked about this? \n \n00:20:16:15 - 00:20:19:02 \nMia \nPerson? No one. Okay, I'm asking you. \n \n00:20:19:03 - 00:20:19:17 \nRamit \nOkay. That's a. \n \n00:20:19:17 - 00:20:37:08 \nJake \nFair and like with with the pension what we are a little that we know about it is that you get retirement is a top three years. So an average in average. So I've got two master's degrees I'm now I'm going to be a principal next year. And that's I just keep wanting to add income. So at that top three years as high as possible. \n \n00:20:37:09 - 00:20:51:06 \nRamit \nOkay. When it comes to the money in your relationship, the tension is around how much Mia that you are sending towards your kids. Jake, what would you do with the money if you had more of it? \n \n00:20:51:08 - 00:20:53:17 \nMia \nNo judgment. \n \n00:20:53:19 - 00:21:11:02 \nJake \nI don't know. My mind is going a a lot of different ways. Like I'd probably save it. I'd put it into savings somehow, try to collect interest, that kind of thing, put some money into our house, like, you know, the landscaping idea that we wanted to do our family really liked. We inherited a hot tub and that broke. \n \n00:21:11:04 - 00:21:30:24 \nJake \nThat would be something I'd probably put it into. Those are kind of my ideas and maybe a food service we talked about, like possibly something that, you know, health is really important to both of us. We both exercise regularly, and I think to have healthy food options consistently and not add it as a stress, because when we come home from work, just everybody's dumping their problems on us. \n \n00:21:31:01 - 00:21:35:19 \nRamit \nHave you all talked about these three things saving house food. \n \n00:21:35:20 - 00:21:36:24 \nMia \nWe've talked about it. \n \n00:21:37:01 - 00:21:38:08 \nRamit \nAny conclusions. \n \n00:21:38:08 - 00:21:59:07 \nMia \nWe do want to save for the house stuff? That's probably like the most conclusion. I agree that having some sort of like a food problem, I think we probably agree on that. Like if we could have like healthy food prepped and delivered to us, that would be amazing. But any food service is just like so much more than what we spend on groceries. \n \n00:21:59:07 - 00:22:01:13 \nMia \nIt just doesn't seem to make sense. \n \n00:22:01:14 - 00:22:05:10 \nRamit \nAre you too aligned about money? \n \n00:22:05:12 - 00:22:22:17 \nJake \nI would say most of the things. The only thing I think that would cause any conflict on us would be vacation, I think is something that Mia wants to travel and I'm not. I feel like if we're putting all that money into school, it's like, I'd love to. I'd like to go sometimes, but it's not a need of mine. \n \n00:22:22:19 - 00:22:24:04 \nSpeaker 4 \nThis couple is very likable. \n \n00:22:24:04 - 00:22:45:00 \nRamit \nI like talking to them, but I am noticing that because they are so compassionate with each other, it's difficult to get a straight answer out of them. I'm not even sure if they agree or disagree. And so much of what's happening here is being polite to each other. Polites good, but sometimes I need somebody to say, I don't like that. \n \n00:22:45:00 - 00:23:05:15 \nRamit \nNo, this is what I want. That is what I'm pushing for. Here it is now, my personal mission to show Mia and Jake that they can be direct with each other and be polite. Y'all like feeling anxious about money? No, no. Let's try that question again. Do you like feeling anxious about money? \n \n00:23:05:16 - 00:23:06:06 \nMia \nNo. \n \n00:23:06:11 - 00:23:23:18 \nRamit \nBoth are saying no. No. Like yes. Very affirmatively. No, no. And yet the dynamic you've built allows you to both constantly feel anxious. Okay, let's let's find out what the numbers say and then we'll talk about them. All right. What was it like putting the CSP together? \n \n00:23:23:19 - 00:23:39:10 \nMia \nIt was actually really nice because it gave me a concrete way to think about our big picture, which is nothing that I've ever been able to do before. Like I had no idea. Like if somebody asked, like, what's your net worth? I don't even know how to calculate. \n \n00:23:39:10 - 00:23:56:06 \nRamit \nThat and consider how many years you kept a budget. Yes. Like we're tracking this and like you mentioned, like, should we be tracking the price of groceries or the price of soda? Yeah. It's unclear. Why do you think, looking back for the many years that you kept a budget, why do you think you were keeping that budget? \n \n00:23:56:06 - 00:24:00:16 \nMia \nBecause that was the number one thing I was taught about money is you balance your checkbook. \n \n00:24:00:18 - 00:24:12:09 \nRamit \nRight? And so since nobody balances their checkbook anymore or basically uses one, you adapted that for today and we're using Excel or some tool using Excel. \n \n00:24:12:10 - 00:24:13:07 \nJake \nGoogle Sheets. \n \n00:24:13:08 - 00:24:16:11 \nMia \nYeah. Do you want to know what I was doing? Because it's pretty crazy. \n \n00:24:16:11 - 00:24:17:07 \nRamit \nI would love. \n \n00:24:17:07 - 00:24:42:07 \nMia \nTo tell them. So I would again, we spend on the credit cards because I get points for that. But we never don't pay them off. Great. Okay, so I would copy everything that was spent in the credit card statement, put it into an Excel spreadsheet. So I'm just copying and pasting it and then line by line one, make sure everything looked like there wasn't anything there that shouldn't be there. \n \n00:24:42:07 - 00:25:05:10 \nMia \nAnd then I would try to sort them into categories. Categories. I don't know why I came up with those categories, I just did, and then I would try over multiple months to track, to see, like, are we spending on clothes, what we said we should spend? Are we spending on going out to eat what we should spend? But it was like dupe like I knew I was duplicating work like it's already there, but that's what. \n \n00:25:05:11 - 00:25:09:16 \nRamit \nSo I keep going. Why? Why do you think you were doing all this? What did it get you? \n \n00:25:09:17 - 00:25:14:09 \nMia \nI think I felt like I was controlling our money. \n \n00:25:14:10 - 00:25:35:17 \nRamit \nExactly, exactly. This is a classic example. I'm actually really thankful that you're sharing this with everybody, because there's so many people who go through the motions of playing money. They are playing money. They are moving things from here to there. Why? You know, like the concept of a paper pusher. Let me pick this piece of paper up, push it over there. \n \n00:25:35:18 - 00:25:50:04 \nRamit \nLike we all know that's useless, but we do it. And nobody forced you to write. No one sat you down and said, like you got to do this. No. If anything was echos from your parents, maybe grandparents, it doesn't work. Like if we actually took an honest look at it and be like, what am I getting out of this? \n \n00:25:50:05 - 00:26:16:03 \nRamit \nBut we get a sense of control and we like to feel like motion is productivity. Another great example of you correcting that and being like, hey, made a mistake, went down the wrong rabbit hole of a budget, we're going to stop that. And you did amazing. Okay, let's take a look at the numbers. Maya, can you read the word in bold and the number next to it for this entire box, please? \n \n00:26:16:06 - 00:26:31:22 \nMia \nAssets 443,000. Investments zero. Savings 13,900. Debt 176,000 and $410. Total net worth 280,490. \n \n00:26:31:23 - 00:26:33:18 \nRamit \nCool. What do you think of these numbers? \n \n00:26:33:24 - 00:26:50:16 \nMia \nI feel like our net worth is low considering how much we both make. I don't understand the investments line again, like we've got the pension, so I don't know if that should be higher. \n \n00:26:50:17 - 00:26:51:03 \nRamit \nOkay. \n \n00:26:51:05 - 00:26:56:10 \nJake \nI feel amazing about the debt. I think that that's something. It's it's our house. That's all. \n \n00:26:56:16 - 00:27:00:05 \nRamit \nThat's all. Yeah. Mortgage debt. Yeah. What's the interest rate? \n \n00:27:00:07 - 00:27:01:00 \nMia \n6%. \n \n00:27:01:01 - 00:27:01:14 \nRamit \nYeah. Okay. \n \n00:27:01:15 - 00:27:03:18 \nMia \nIt's also a 15 year mortgage, so we're proud. \n \n00:27:03:18 - 00:27:08:02 \nJake \nOf that. Yes. We sold from a 30 year to a 15 year. That was something else that were actually paid off. \n \n00:27:08:03 - 00:27:08:14 \nRamit \nNice. \n \n00:27:08:14 - 00:27:16:17 \nJake \nYeah. Yeah. I don't know what. I just don't know enough about net worth. Yeah. Obviously I want it to be higher, but I don't know like why. \n \n00:27:16:20 - 00:27:24:19 \nRamit \nYeah that's a good answer. That's honest. Yeah. That's actually common I would say most people feel that way. Do you looking at these numbers make you feel anything? \n \n00:27:24:21 - 00:27:29:01 \nJake \nI think the only thing I would feel would be guilt. And I think it would be debt. \n \n00:27:29:02 - 00:27:33:19 \nRamit \nLike, I think I could show you this glass of water and you'd feel guilt, like. \n \n00:27:33:21 - 00:27:34:18 \nJake \nYeah, I think so too. \n \n00:27:34:19 - 00:27:38:24 \nRamit \nThat's a default baseline. Okay. So you feel guilt because. \n \n00:27:39:04 - 00:27:44:24 \nJake \nI don't feel guilt. I said if I felt if debt was way higher, I would feel guilt. That's the only feeling that I would have. \n \n00:27:45:00 - 00:27:50:08 \nRamit \nThat's quite an interesting response, though. Yes. Mia, how do you feel, if at all, looking at these numbers? \n \n00:27:50:09 - 00:28:14:13 \nMia \nI'm proud that our net worth is something right. Like, I'm proud that there's something there. I'm proud of the decisions that we've made that have gotten us to have that. And I also feel I do think guilt is a default, but guilty that it's like, not more like, I wish I would have made some different decisions earlier in my life. \n \n00:28:14:14 - 00:28:15:09 \nMia \nCool. \n \n00:28:15:11 - 00:28:22:14 \nRamit \nI appreciate that. Let's look at the income. Jake, what's the gross combined monthly income, please? \n \n00:28:22:16 - 00:28:24:16 \nJake \n18,862. \n \n00:28:24:17 - 00:28:33:08 \nRamit \nCool. That means that your household income is $226,000 a year. Did you know that number? \n \n00:28:33:09 - 00:28:33:18 \nJake \nYes. \n \n00:28:33:18 - 00:28:34:17 \nRamit \nWe knew that. You knew that. \n \n00:28:34:17 - 00:28:39:10 \nMia \nI had never made that calculation of our gross. I knew our net. \n \n00:28:39:12 - 00:28:43:13 \nRamit \nSo you didn't know? What did you think that you made as a household? Ballpark. \n \n00:28:43:15 - 00:28:45:23 \nMia \nI probably would have said, like, 200,000. \n \n00:28:45:24 - 00:28:47:23 \nRamit \nOkay. What do you think about that income? \n \n00:28:48:01 - 00:28:49:03 \nMia \nI think it's great. \n \n00:28:49:04 - 00:28:52:12 \nJake \nYeah. No. It's great. And that's why it stresses me out. I don't know why we're. \n \n00:28:52:13 - 00:28:53:11 \nMia \nLike, why are we counting. \n \n00:28:53:12 - 00:28:54:11 \nJake \nPennies jammed up. \n \n00:28:54:11 - 00:29:06:24 \nRamit \nLike this? Is. This is funny. Like, people don't make enough money. They go, I'm stressed out. Then people make a ton of money. They go, I'm stressed out because why don't I feel better about money? Yeah. How much do you need to make to not be stressed out? Jake. \n \n00:29:07:01 - 00:29:13:21 \nJake \nWell, I know that it'd just be better problems, you know, I've. I've read the subtle art where it's just you want to have good problems. So these are pretty good problems to have. But. \n \n00:29:13:21 - 00:29:18:20 \nRamit \nBut you're still stressed out, right? Yes. Maybe if you make 500 K, will you still be stressed. \n \n00:29:18:22 - 00:29:22:12 \nJake \nIf we kept our current assets? No, I wouldn't be stressed. Oh, really? \n \n00:29:22:13 - 00:29:26:15 \nRamit \n500 is all you need to make. Just double. \n \n00:29:26:16 - 00:29:30:02 \nJake \nI feel like you're leading the witness. I definitely. I'm sure I'd be stressed always. \n \n00:29:30:03 - 00:29:30:15 \nRamit \nYes. \n \n00:29:30:16 - 00:29:31:20 \nJake \nYeah. \n \n00:29:31:22 - 00:29:48:13 \nRamit \nIt's kind of funny when I talk to small business owners who are super frustrated by the vendors that they work with because I'm like, y'all know you're the boss, right? 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I mean, look at that mortgage, $1,776. \n \n00:32:58:20 - 00:33:03:21 \nRamit \nThat's crazy. 9% of gross. Well done. \n \n00:33:03:23 - 00:33:04:07 \nJake \nThank you. \n \n00:33:04:08 - 00:33:09:18 \nRamit \nThank you. Especially considering you had a McMansion before. And this is amazing. \n \n00:33:09:18 - 00:33:11:10 \nMia \nI'm very proud of that. \n \n00:33:11:12 - 00:33:15:01 \nJake \nAnd the other one was 2000. Way more. Yeah. \n \n00:33:15:03 - 00:33:19:09 \nMia \nAnd I think that's probably maybe one of my, our proudest money decisions that we made. \n \n00:33:19:09 - 00:33:19:14 \nJake \nThat. \n \n00:33:19:19 - 00:33:20:21 \nRamit \nI love that. \n \n00:33:20:23 - 00:33:21:24 \nJake \nThat's so cool. \n \n00:33:22:01 - 00:33:24:04 \nRamit \nYou all ever celebrate that that you made that tough. \n \n00:33:24:08 - 00:33:30:17 \nMia \nI think we do actually like we talked. We look at each other, I would say pretty regularly and like, oh my God, I'm so happy we did this. \n \n00:33:30:23 - 00:33:36:04 \nJake \nAnd it feels better. Like it feels like home to its like the added bonus. It feels more like us to. Yes. \n \n00:33:36:04 - 00:33:48:07 \nRamit \nSo this is great energy. This is what now that I see that you can do this and that you do celebrate and you have I'm in my head, I'm going, cool. They can do that. So now I just need to transfer that. \n \n00:33:48:08 - 00:33:48:20 \nMia \nI would love. \n \n00:33:48:20 - 00:33:49:20 \nRamit \nThat over to other parts of. \n \n00:33:49:20 - 00:33:50:12 \nJake \nYour money. I mean. \n \n00:33:50:13 - 00:33:56:06 \nRamit \nThis is very good. Okay. Let's keep going. We have investments. What's that number. \n \n00:33:56:10 - 00:33:57:20 \nMia \n22% okay. \n \n00:33:57:21 - 00:34:15:09 \nRamit \nSo that is your pension which is about $3,000 a month going to your pension. Yep. Okay. And I can see there's like a little bit of confusion on your part of like what's happening with this pension. What does it mean. But overall great savings. What's that number. \n \n00:34:15:10 - 00:34:16:14 \nMia \n25%. \n \n00:34:16:15 - 00:34:34:04 \nRamit \nOkay. The bulk of this is kids 529 and then you have an emergency fund. Okay. Personally I would have put the 529 under investments. Okay. But it's fine. Either way. It shows me where your priorities are. And then finally let's go down to guilt free spending. What's that number? \n \n00:34:34:04 - 00:34:35:03 \nMia \n3%. \n \n00:34:35:04 - 00:34:36:24 \nRamit \nDo you only spend $364. \n \n00:34:36:24 - 00:34:38:08 \nMia \nA month? That's not right. \n \n00:34:38:09 - 00:34:40:17 \nRamit \nOkay. How much do you spend? Like you don't know? \n \n00:34:40:19 - 00:34:43:10 \nMia \nI bet that's just like what was left. Probably. \n \n00:34:43:11 - 00:34:43:13 \nJake \nYeah. \n \n00:34:43:14 - 00:34:44:16 \nMia \nThat is. That's just. \n \n00:34:44:17 - 00:34:48:24 \nRamit \nSo do you think that you were spending more than 364? That would be extremely lean. \n \n00:34:49:00 - 00:34:50:02 \nMia \nYes, of course we are. \n \n00:34:50:03 - 00:35:00:08 \nRamit \nHow much do you think that you are spending every month on discretionary items, including eating out, coffee, vacations spread out over 12 months, etc.? \n \n00:35:00:12 - 00:35:09:06 \nMia \nI bet it's closer to like 1500. And even that probably is us being really strapped. \n \n00:35:09:08 - 00:35:13:10 \nRamit \nLet's not do that. Let's be. Let's. How much are you realistically? \n \n00:35:13:12 - 00:35:17:19 \nMia \nNo, no, I think we're realistically spending probably 1500 to $2000 a month, but. \n \n00:35:17:19 - 00:35:40:15 \nRamit \nI'm say 2000. Okay. When I do these numbers, I always want to be conservative because I never want to be surprised. Owing more money. If anything, I want extra money at the end of the year. Yeah. Cool. So at 2000, then the question is where's that money coming from? Yeah, I have a question. Your long term emergency fund says 700 bucks a month, but you have only $14,000 in savings. \n \n00:35:40:16 - 00:35:44:00 \nRamit \nYeah, you're pulling money out of your savings occasionally. \n \n00:35:44:02 - 00:35:46:21 \nMia \nYes, we have been. Which we want to stop doing. \n \n00:35:46:22 - 00:36:05:04 \nRamit \nWell, that's. This all makes sense. Yes. So you're spending more than the CSP is reporting? Yeah. It's not planned for. And then you pull out of savings. Yes. Okay. You know, your savings is about two months of expenses. Were you aware of that? \n \n00:36:05:05 - 00:36:05:21 \nMia \nYes. \n \n00:36:05:22 - 00:36:07:21 \nRamit \nOkay. How does that feel to you? \n \n00:36:07:22 - 00:36:08:14 \nMia \nScary. \n \n00:36:08:15 - 00:36:09:13 \nJake \nThat's why we're here. \n \n00:36:09:15 - 00:36:17:20 \nMia \nThat is why we're here. All right. I think us being here gives us hope, right? Like, I think if we had. \n \n00:36:18:01 - 00:36:18:24 \nRamit \nKind of answer that. \n \n00:36:18:24 - 00:36:25:22 \nMia \nBecause I would be more mad if I didn't feel like I'm going to talk with her. Me? He's going to help me figure this out. \n \n00:36:25:23 - 00:36:26:08 \nRamit \nWow. \n \n00:36:26:09 - 00:36:43:01 \nJake \nI think that with me, it kind of reminds me of how I treated girls went before. I like when I was going through puberty. It scared me. I didn't understand it, so I just avoid it, okay? And I wanted, like, I can't be mad. I don't understand it well enough. I think that that's kind of where I'm at. \n \n00:36:43:01 - 00:36:44:16 \nJake \nI just like this. \n \n00:36:44:16 - 00:36:45:17 \nRamit \nIs quite analogy. \n \n00:36:45:19 - 00:36:46:05 \nJake \nYeah, it's. \n \n00:36:46:05 - 00:36:50:03 \nRamit \nYes. But what's the conclusion? Because now you're married. Actually, you've been married twice. \n \n00:36:50:04 - 00:36:54:11 \nJake \nYes. So I'm not afraid of girls anymore. Sort of. \n \n00:36:54:13 - 00:36:55:15 \nRamit \nAre you afraid of money? \n \n00:36:55:22 - 00:37:13:02 \nJake \nYeah. I think I'm confused by it. And I think there's a deep seated fear of seeming dumb, and it's seeming like asking questions, you know, and I, I joke about not knowing what people say, making their money work for them. I think that this just like a knowing gap and I want to get it fixed. So that's kind of where I'm at. \n \n00:37:13:02 - 00:37:21:02 \nJake \nSo I can't I can't be mad that I don't, you know, it's like learning a new sport. You're not mad the first day. It's like I'm just trying to drink it in as much as I can right now. \n \n00:37:21:02 - 00:37:26:02 \nMia \nAnd I think I'm just more scared than mad. The fear is bigger than the anger for me. \n \n00:37:26:04 - 00:37:46:11 \nRamit \nI love Jake's analogy about being afraid to talk to women when he was growing up. I think a lot of men can really connect with that memory, but I also think that at a certain point you have to face your fears. There is no way but straight through those fears to go and talk to somebody to apply for a job. \n \n00:37:46:11 - 00:38:07:12 \nRamit \nIf you've been nervous about your career, you've got to face your fears with money and realize nobody else is coming to save me. And I was put on this earth. Not simply to save money in a savings account, but to live a rich life. Therefore, I'm going to start facing my fears. I'm going to learn how money works, and I'm going to start feeling good about it. \n \n00:38:07:14 - 00:38:37:19 \nRamit \nFor me, I always naturally understood money, but things like fitness, I felt like I was the odd man out like everybody else learned it and I just don't get it. And so when I talk to people and they don't understand money, I have a lot of compassion. It's kind of complicated. You get a million different people telling you a million different things, and as long as you got a roof over your head, it kind of seems like it's fine. \n \n00:38:37:21 - 00:38:43:17 \nRamit \nSo I appreciate you being so honest about it. Mia, you said you feel fear. What's the fear of. \n \n00:38:43:22 - 00:38:52:00 \nMia \nThe fear is that if something happened, if there was a catastrophic event, we don't have money to deal with it. \n \n00:38:52:01 - 00:39:12:23 \nRamit \nIf you had a fear of that, like, let's say I had a fear of slipping in the shower. Okay, I might get one of those plastic mats you have a fear of. If something happened, you won't have enough money, but your savings account is still $13,900. What's the difference? \n \n00:39:13:00 - 00:39:21:05 \nMia \nI think in the moment that I want to go on a trip or I want to buy something, I'm just like, I'll deal with it later. \n \n00:39:21:07 - 00:39:23:04 \nRamit \nYeah. How often does that happen? \n \n00:39:23:07 - 00:39:29:00 \nMia \nOh, probably all the time. Right. Because if I was really afraid, I wouldn't be doing that. \n \n00:39:29:01 - 00:39:44:02 \nRamit \nYeah. How much do you think your relationship with money is problem oriented? Where you talk about the problems, you agonize over, the problems, you discuss the problems versus solution oriented where you say, okay, that's the problem. Here's what we are doing about. \n \n00:39:44:02 - 00:39:46:01 \nMia \nIt, 95% to 5%. \n \n00:39:46:03 - 00:39:47:13 \nRamit \nYeah, 95%. Problem. \n \n00:39:47:14 - 00:39:48:23 \nMia \nProblem. \n \n00:39:49:00 - 00:40:03:03 \nRamit \nCommon. Really common. Just imagine with me for a second if we flipped it just flipped it 95% solution oriented, 5% problem oriented. What would that look and feel like to. \n \n00:40:03:03 - 00:40:17:24 \nMia \nYou that would feel like like when you said that you liked that we celebrated are the decision that we made about the house? To me, it would feel like having that 95% of the time, which sounds amazing. \n \n00:40:18:04 - 00:40:20:07 \nRamit \nSo you'd celebrate more. What else would you do? \n \n00:40:20:08 - 00:40:35:23 \nMia \nI would worry less it like, and I could spend that energy doing something I enjoy. Like what? Hanging out with Jake. Spending time with the kids. Like I wouldn't be trapped to the spreadsheet. \n \n00:40:36:00 - 00:40:37:15 \nRamit \nAre you trapped now? \n \n00:40:37:17 - 00:40:42:14 \nMia \nYeah, I watch it all the time. It still doesn't make sense to me. And again, I'm just like paper pushing. \n \n00:40:42:16 - 00:40:53:07 \nRamit \nYeah, yeah. Okay, I have a couple more questions about this. So you have preschool at $1,266 a month. How long will that last for? \n \n00:40:53:08 - 00:40:55:21 \nMia \nAnother 15 months. \n \n00:40:56:00 - 00:40:56:19 \nJake \nOne more school year? \n \n00:40:56:20 - 00:40:59:17 \nRamit \nYeah, one more school year. Yeah. Okay. And then after that. \n \n00:40:59:18 - 00:41:00:18 \nMia \nThen public school. \n \n00:41:00:23 - 00:41:07:02 \nRamit \nGot it. Cool. We have a deposit into an account. What's that for? \n \n00:41:07:03 - 00:41:17:13 \nMia \nThat is a joint account that my ex-husband and I each put that much money in. And it's like savings for, like when the kids need clothes. Like for the sort of bigger expenses. \n \n00:41:17:14 - 00:41:33:08 \nRamit \nGot it, got it. So that's kind of day to day versus the 529 that you are saving for. Okay. Great. I mean, I love seeing this car payment at $398 a month, amazing debt at 459. That's what. \n \n00:41:33:10 - 00:41:36:17 \nMia \nTreadmill. That's a treadmill that is done in three months. \n \n00:41:36:18 - 00:41:38:23 \nRamit \nYes. What is the interest rate on a treadmill? \n \n00:41:38:24 - 00:41:39:21 \nMia \nIt was. \n \n00:41:39:23 - 00:41:54:01 \nRamit \nYeah. Okay. All right. By the way, I noticed that something interesting. Your preschool amount is not being accounted for in the total. So let's go ahead and adjust that right now. Wow. What just happened to your fixed cost number? \n \n00:41:54:01 - 00:41:55:21 \nMia \nIt's a big jump 10% jump. \n \n00:41:55:22 - 00:42:23:19 \nRamit \nYeah jumped 10%. So let's recognize a couple of things. Number one childcare and preschool. Very expensive. Number two suddenly having that really high income and the low fixed cost, which was something I was like. Great job. It's not so low anymore right now. Preschool is temporary. And as you mentioned, public school after. So this number will go down. \n \n00:42:23:20 - 00:42:28:09 \nRamit \nYeah. But things are not so loose all of a sudden. What does it tell you. \n \n00:42:28:10 - 00:42:34:01 \nMia \nIt reinforces that we don't really know kind of what's going on. \n \n00:42:34:02 - 00:42:44:09 \nRamit \nAgree. That is true. And what does it imply for the rest of your money if you just jump from 50 to 60%, what does it imply for the rest of how you're spending your money? \n \n00:42:44:11 - 00:42:45:02 \nJake \nThat shrinking? \n \n00:42:45:03 - 00:42:45:07 \nMia \nYeah. \n \n00:42:45:08 - 00:42:51:13 \nJake \nThat's true. I'm like feeling my hands getting hot right now. Yeah. Like I feel like this pressure. Just like I'm like, gosh, here we go. \n \n00:42:51:14 - 00:43:11:11 \nRamit \nOkay, here's how I think about it I appreciate that. That's real for me. I'm still like, we got a puzzle here and we're going to figure it out. Certainly you do not have a lack of money. You all make a lot of money. So we got a puzzle. We just need to figure out which way the pieces all fit. \n \n00:43:11:11 - 00:43:14:15 \nRamit \nSo I'm not feeling hot hands at all right now, okay? \n \n00:43:14:16 - 00:43:23:06 \nJake \nI have that confidence. And like, you have, like, you understand. And that's where it's like, I want that feeling. Where it's like where most of in life there's a problem. We'll fix it. \n \n00:43:23:07 - 00:43:46:14 \nRamit \nExactly. All right. We got to make some other adjustments. We have this deposit for your kids that was also not reflected. Look at the number now on your fixed costs, we're at 64%. So the financial picture has actually dramatically changed. Now I'm going to be a little more directive on my questions because at 50% I really don't care what you're doing. \n \n00:43:46:16 - 00:43:54:15 \nRamit \nYou do whatever you want. But at 64% I have questions. Utilities are 409. Why? That's a lot. \n \n00:43:54:17 - 00:44:06:13 \nMia \nI would assume that our electric and gas are high, because I basically run the washing machine 100% of the time, and then the hot tub. Also. \n \n00:44:06:15 - 00:44:10:17 \nRamit \nWhat how much is a hot tub cost? I truly do not know. \n \n00:44:10:18 - 00:44:14:05 \nMia \nWell, just the electricity to run it to heat the water. \n \n00:44:14:06 - 00:44:15:13 \nRamit \nHow often do you get in the hot tub? \n \n00:44:15:14 - 00:44:16:02 \nJake \nWell, it's. \n \n00:44:16:04 - 00:44:17:05 \nMia \nWell now it's broken. \n \n00:44:17:06 - 00:44:17:22 \nRamit \nSo great. \n \n00:44:17:23 - 00:44:20:21 \nJake \nIt was so old it had a CD player on it, so. \n \n00:44:20:23 - 00:44:25:01 \nRamit \nBut, like, can I ask you, like when it broke, did you notice your utility bills going down? \n \n00:44:25:02 - 00:44:28:01 \nMia \nI have not figured out how to. \n \n00:44:28:03 - 00:44:28:10 \nJake \nWe have. \n \n00:44:28:15 - 00:44:32:18 \nMia \nDisconnected like to to stop. \n \n00:44:32:22 - 00:44:33:01 \nJake \nYeah. \n \n00:44:33:01 - 00:44:35:19 \nMia \nThat's basically we're still paying for a broken hot tub to run. \n \n00:44:35:20 - 00:44:45:07 \nRamit \nYes. Fix that. Yes. All right. This number is unusually high. And at 64%, we don't have room for that. Yeah, debt payments at 459. Again. \n \n00:44:45:07 - 00:44:46:09 \nMia \nThis is your three months. \n \n00:44:46:10 - 00:45:00:24 \nRamit \nOh, okay. Let's zero it out then just to see okay. So watch. So this we zeroed it out and it brings us down to 60%. Okay. Nice. Okay I'm going to leave it at zero. Groceries and gas are first of all why did you combine those two. It's a little odd combination. \n \n00:45:01:01 - 00:45:06:06 \nMia \nBecause it's what we put on the credit card. Like, it all goes on the credit card. \n \n00:45:06:07 - 00:45:31:16 \nRamit \nYou should change that. Okay. Gas should go with your car, cars, everything related to the car. Okay. So gas, parking tickets, parking, all of it should go there. That way you just have a good sense. A lot of times people don't realize, oh, my car payments 350, which mine used to be. And then when I netted out everything else, I added all together was over $1,000 a month, including parking and gas and everything. \n \n00:45:31:17 - 00:45:34:06 \nRamit \nSo we got to know these numbers. Know your numbers. \n \n00:45:34:07 - 00:45:37:23 \nJake \nSo move. So move the gas up to the carpet. Exactly. Okay. \n \n00:45:38:00 - 00:45:39:21 \nRamit \nHow much are you spending on groceries per month? \n \n00:45:39:21 - 00:45:43:21 \nMia \nI do think we probably spend about $1,200 on groceries per month. \n \n00:45:43:22 - 00:45:48:09 \nRamit \nOkay. What are you buying for 1200? I'm not the grocery Grinch. I'm just curious. \n \n00:45:48:10 - 00:46:07:11 \nJake \nI think that's an area where we could really cut back. And I think that it's so cyclical, too, because when you add two grown children, like the meals change and we're trying to be proactive. And when when the older kids are not with us, then we try and do leftovers or things like that, and then it's just trying to save money. \n \n00:46:07:11 - 00:46:09:18 \nJake \nBut I definitely think that that's a spot. \n \n00:46:09:19 - 00:46:10:19 \nRamit \nWhat do you think. \n \n00:46:10:21 - 00:46:12:08 \nJake \nThat we could save? \n \n00:46:12:10 - 00:46:17:08 \nMia \nI agree that we can we probably could cut back on that a little. \n \n00:46:17:09 - 00:46:21:16 \nRamit \nIf you could bring this number down your groceries instead of 1200, what would you bring it to? \n \n00:46:21:17 - 00:46:25:17 \nMia \nI think we could realistically do 800. I think we'd do 200 a week. \n \n00:46:25:18 - 00:46:26:21 \nRamit \nYou cut 400 off. \n \n00:46:27:00 - 00:46:27:13 \nMia \nI think we could. \n \n00:46:27:14 - 00:46:29:00 \nRamit \nI agree, that's pretty good. Okay. \n \n00:46:29:01 - 00:46:36:00 \nJake \nHow do we do that though? Like that's what's the action steps like you just do you just pull out $800 in every time you go and then it's just. \n \n00:46:36:01 - 00:46:57:15 \nRamit \nThat's it. Excellent question. When you start, most people in America do not shop to a number. They go to the grocery store and they're just like, that looks good. And when you are building this skill of sticking to a number, you can do that. You can literally pull out $200 a week in cash, or a simpler way is to simply, you know, your number. \n \n00:46:57:15 - 00:47:22:09 \nRamit \nEvery week. We're going to spend $200. Now, a lifestyle is lifestyle. If you go in twice a week, fine, it's 100 bucks each time. But you got to keep a note on your phone somewhere where you were tracking it over time. What I found is that people who are effective at hitting their grocery number, they basically eat the same thing a lot, like people who are hitting a number, especially when they need to hit a strict number. \n \n00:47:22:10 - 00:47:46:00 \nRamit \nThey basically come up with a meal plan and that's it. So that's number one. The second thing I've learned about patterns of successful people hitting a grocery number is one person is doing the shopping because they just know the numbers. They're connected. If another person goes and buys it, sometimes they have to, but they may not have that tacit knowledge that the primary person does, right? \n \n00:47:46:02 - 00:47:47:08 \nRamit \nSo that's what I would do. \n \n00:47:47:09 - 00:47:47:19 \nJake \nOkay. \n \n00:47:47:20 - 00:47:48:24 \nMia \nThat's really helpful. Thanks. \n \n00:47:49:00 - 00:48:07:01 \nRamit \nCool. I'm going to take this down to 1100. Still leaving your gas in here which you can move later. And that brings you down to 57%. Honestly you're in great territory. Great territory. It's a little higher than I would like considering your income, but 57% is within parameters. Subscriptions at 315. What's this for? \n \n00:48:07:03 - 00:48:14:12 \nMia \nSo that would be all of the different TV services. So like every single one which I think we could totally. \n \n00:48:14:13 - 00:48:15:10 \nJake \nYeah we could. \n \n00:48:15:12 - 00:48:17:00 \nMia \nI don't care about that very much. \n \n00:48:17:01 - 00:48:18:10 \nRamit \nYeah. How much can you take it down. \n \n00:48:18:10 - 00:48:19:07 \nMia \nTo 200. \n \n00:48:19:13 - 00:48:20:11 \nJake \nAt least. Yeah. \n \n00:48:20:12 - 00:48:43:23 \nRamit \nYeah. Okay. Great. I love that you say easy. Let's keep it easy. Okay? All right, 200. We don't need to cut to the bone on everything, right? You know, I'm interesting noticing that the two of you are very good at cutting costs. Like, I have not seen any resistance from you. It's uncommon. Most people, like, fight consciously and unconsciously. \n \n00:48:43:23 - 00:48:50:17 \nRamit \nThe two of you know, you're like, yeah, we can cut that. Yeah. Like what? What is that? Why is it so easy for you to cut costs? \n \n00:48:50:18 - 00:49:00:12 \nJake \nFor me, it's it's the greater good of our family. And I think that, like, financial stability would create such a safe environment in a household where we're comfortable moving forward. \n \n00:49:00:13 - 00:49:02:04 \nRamit \nAnd what about you, Mia? \n \n00:49:02:05 - 00:49:14:23 \nMia \nI agree with Jake, and I think I'm comfortable with it because it's just hypothetical when push comes to shove and I'm actually like, there's a pair of shoes I want I like. \n \n00:49:15:00 - 00:49:31:12 \nRamit \nThat's quite interesting. Wow. Very insightful. Both. We're going to tackle that as well. I think that you also might both be really comfortable with this because it's what you know. How long have you been told got to cut costs. Got a that's bad. Don't spend money forever. Yeah. \n \n00:49:31:15 - 00:49:34:15 \nJake \nYou know that's my that's my education on money is don't spend money you don't have. \n \n00:49:34:16 - 00:50:01:16 \nRamit \nExactly. So to me it's like me saying like drink a glass of water. Yeah. You've been drinking water, you know, for a long time, right. It's quite striking how easy it is for Mia and Jake to cut costs. Most couples do not find it this easy. They resist at every turn, even if they're in severe debt. But I also suspect that there is something much deeper going on here, which is that for Mia and Jake, being good with money means not spending a lot at all. \n \n00:50:01:16 - 00:50:20:03 \nRamit \nAnd so while I want to cut some of their costs because I think they are a bit out of their parameters, I also know that that alone is going to take them back to their comfort zone. Cut costs shrink. I don't want to spend any money. That's not the path to a rich life for them. The path to a rich life manager costs. \n \n00:50:20:03 - 00:50:32:11 \nRamit \nBut also think critically about these major decisions like your investing, your 529 and yes, even their guilt free spending, your pension. Can we just talk about this for a minute. \n \n00:50:32:11 - 00:50:33:05 \nMia \nI appreciate that. \n \n00:50:33:06 - 00:50:40:20 \nRamit \nAll right. So your pension I looked into it and I understand that you looked into it a bit as well before you came here. What have you learned about your pension. \n \n00:50:40:20 - 00:50:51:06 \nMia \nWhen we retire? If we max out our pension. So if we wait till we're whatever the rule is, right? Like there's a formula, I think. \n \n00:50:51:08 - 00:50:56:03 \nJake \nOf 88, it's the year's top. Plus how old you are, 88. \n \n00:50:56:04 - 00:51:09:21 \nMia \nSo if we wait to that then we get for the rest of our lives. Every month, 80% of the average monthly income of our top three years. \n \n00:51:09:22 - 00:51:15:05 \nRamit \nGreat. And when will you be able to retire based on that? \n \n00:51:15:05 - 00:51:16:20 \nMia \nBetween 55 and 60? \n \n00:51:16:21 - 00:51:23:17 \nJake \nYeah, I think it was 54 even because we both had been in going into that pension since 21. So. Great. \n \n00:51:23:21 - 00:51:24:19 \nRamit \nHow do you feel about that? \n \n00:51:24:20 - 00:51:30:11 \nJake \nGood, good. It feels good. Feel good. Yeah. Yeah. It's just like this in the distance thing. I've never it's. \n \n00:51:30:12 - 00:51:46:15 \nMia \nI guess one question I have is I don't know if, you know, 20 years from now, 80% of what I make. If that's enough to live on. Like, I don't understand how to make the the estimation of like how much will inflation go? Like I don't. \n \n00:51:46:17 - 00:52:09:13 \nRamit \nWell, I don't know the details of that, but I'm willing to bet a little bit that your pension indexes for inflation. So usually a lot of different types of pensions and the like will account for inflation. They're not just going to pay you in today's dollars 20 years from now, because it would be worth far less. You could look into that. \n \n00:52:09:13 - 00:52:26:16 \nRamit \nAnd literally you could just type in IP address inflation. Yeah. And I would not be surprised if it's like yeah we account for inflation etc.. Got it. Do you have a sense of how much you might make in the last three years? Average like a ballpark is helpful. \n \n00:52:26:20 - 00:52:29:09 \nMia \nLike each year. You mean like what our yearly income would be? \n \n00:52:29:10 - 00:52:31:15 \nRamit \nYeah. Like, what can we use to project? \n \n00:52:31:17 - 00:52:37:14 \nMia \nSure. I think it'd be safe to say 140 each. \n \n00:52:37:15 - 00:52:44:19 \nRamit \nEach. Okay. We can make some rough estimations, but in general, that's like quite amazing. Like, very few people have pensions like this anymore, you know that. \n \n00:52:44:19 - 00:52:46:23 \nJake \nThat's what we heard. Yeah. Everybody we talked to that. \n \n00:52:47:00 - 00:53:04:19 \nRamit \nAnd the benefit of this like is back in the day in our parents time a lot of people had pensions. So basically like the two of you, they're kind of like I don't really think about investing like it's taken care of. All I know is I need to put the X money in the pension and then they retire, and then they just get a check every month. \n \n00:53:04:19 - 00:53:21:24 \nRamit \nAnd by the time the two of you retire, your house will be paid off. Your expenses will be way lower. No more, you know, perhaps the food goes down. Certainly all the savings going to 529 is investing. All that stuff goes away and you're just like, oh wow, this is a lot of money. And we're 5455, which is quite young. \n \n00:53:22:00 - 00:53:41:01 \nRamit \nYeah, it's a great life. That was more typical in our parents time. And then companies took that and they said, this is really expensive, especially because people are living longer. And also we can get away with just shifting it on the burden of people. Let's make them save for it. You are responsible for your for one or your IRA. \n \n00:53:41:01 - 00:53:59:21 \nRamit \nAnd like we don't have to account for this for the rest of their lives. So cool you all living in the, the public system of getting a pension. It's awesome if you are in it. Awesome. Okay, saving $700 a month. How did you pick that number? \n \n00:53:59:22 - 00:54:11:14 \nJake \nI think it was 1000. I think we started with a round number, didn't we? Yeah. And then it was just like. That seemed like too much with what we were spending, and we just kind of went down to 700, I think. I don't know, there's, there's not like it's it's just. \n \n00:54:11:20 - 00:54:12:10 \nRamit \nIt's arbitrary. \n \n00:54:12:11 - 00:54:13:03 \nMia \nIt's arbitrary. \n \n00:54:13:04 - 00:54:14:02 \nJake \nIt could be anything. \n \n00:54:14:02 - 00:54:22:12 \nRamit \nSo I just want to point a couple of things out. If as we have made some adjustments, you'll notice that you are now spending more than you make every. \n \n00:54:22:15 - 00:54:23:23 \nJake \nWhat explains the savings? \n \n00:54:24:02 - 00:54:41:19 \nRamit \nYeah. That's why your savings are being depleted. And that's why in part you feel. Yeah. Scared about money and scarce and like it's bad news because it kind of is. Yeah, but we could make some changes. What are the other big numbers on this CSP that are kind of flashing bright red. \n \n00:54:41:20 - 00:54:45:11 \nMia \nWell the 529 is a lot. \n \n00:54:45:12 - 00:54:57:01 \nRamit \nYeah, that's a big one. So tell me, what is the thinking behind the $2,700 a month going towards the kids? 529. \n \n00:54:57:03 - 00:55:21:22 \nMia \nWhen I was growing up, my parents told me what you want to avoid more than anything else is debt. And even though paying for school is a good investment, if you can avoid debt, do it. And they helped me so that I didn't have any debt coming out of college. So that's one is probably like that's just in my mind, like something that was just always like a given. \n \n00:55:21:23 - 00:55:28:09 \nMia \nLike, if I can pay for my kids college that they don't have debt when they graduate college, I want to do that. \n \n00:55:28:09 - 00:55:31:15 \nRamit \nBecause debt is bad. \n \n00:55:31:16 - 00:55:32:16 \nMia \nBecause debt is bad. \n \n00:55:32:17 - 00:55:34:00 \nRamit \nAnything else? \n \n00:55:34:02 - 00:55:54:23 \nMia \nLike the cost of college now? Like it's just so outrageous. If it was, you know, even like 15 years ago and they were taking out like a total of 60 K for college, like, okay, not ideal, but now it's like 100, 150. Like that's so much debt. It just seems so big. \n \n00:55:55:00 - 00:56:01:13 \nRamit \nOkay, okay. Is there any element of this was done for me. So I want to do it for them? \n \n00:56:01:15 - 00:56:14:19 \nMia \nYeah. I think the reason I hesitate is because I'm just trying to like emotionally gauge. Like is it that and I do think there's some like element of like pay it forward. Right. Like I was given that like this is what parents should do. \n \n00:56:14:20 - 00:56:26:08 \nRamit \nLike yeah that's reasonable. What if the two of you did not make 230 plus $1,000 a year? What if you made 75 K year? Would you still be saving for kids? 529. \n \n00:56:26:09 - 00:56:30:08 \nMia \nI think we would probably still doing a think we'd still do some. \n \n00:56:30:09 - 00:56:49:16 \nJake \nYeah, I don't think we could, but I'd be doing everything I can. I think that my my thing is it was done for me and I want my kids to have that same advantage that I had and that like, we'll give it to you, but you got to go earn it after that kind of thing. And I know there's so many different avenues of making money, but like, my way of thinking is safe. \n \n00:56:49:16 - 00:57:00:05 \nJake \nAnd just go to school, get a job that pays and that's that's all I was told. And so I think that that's just like anxiety telling me to like, make sure my kids have that same opportunity that I had. \n \n00:57:00:06 - 00:57:00:17 \nRamit \nYeah. \n \n00:57:00:19 - 00:57:10:10 \nJake \nOkay. Yeah. This is like the more you dig in and it's harder to defend and talk about, but I just don't know. It's just like this, an agreed upon truth that we've really not dove into. \n \n00:57:10:15 - 00:57:11:23 \nRamit \nAgreed upon truth being. \n \n00:57:12:01 - 00:57:14:14 \nJake \nThat we pay for our kids. College because. \n \n00:57:14:17 - 00:57:15:12 \nRamit \nIt's like. \n \n00:57:15:14 - 00:57:15:19 \nJake \nIt's. \n \n00:57:15:19 - 00:57:18:08 \nRamit \nJust this universal truth and axiom. \n \n00:57:18:12 - 00:57:24:24 \nJake \nYeah, it's like an agreed upon that we've never really dug into why. And I think that that's I think this is very eye opening. \n \n00:57:24:24 - 00:57:39:21 \nRamit \nThat's what I specialize in. Yes. And that is what I love. I don't mind if people take a quote, universal truth that we have, like, I should buy a house and they end up buying. I don't mind that, but we've got to interrogate the logic. \n \n00:57:39:22 - 00:57:40:23 \nJake \nYeah. \n \n00:57:41:00 - 00:58:02:05 \nRamit \nThere's a very simple message that many parents in America have, and that is I need to pay for my kids college now. I think it's a very nice idea. I also think it is a bit simplistic, the idea that I simply need to take all the money I've got and hand it over to my kids. I don't know how much, I don't know where they're going to go. \n \n00:58:02:05 - 00:58:35:20 \nRamit \nI haven't talked to them about it, but I will sacrifice heaven and earth so that they don't have to go into debt. It feels really good, but it lacks any analysis at all. This is not about loving your kids. It's about thinking critically about one of the biggest financial decisions in your life. And what I am begging everyone on this podcast, and everyone who watches it to do, is to go deeper, go beneath the surface of this very nice, positive idea of helping kids and calculate how much how are they going to use it? \n \n00:58:35:21 - 00:58:50:06 \nRamit \nWhat if we contributed this much? Not that much. What if we gave them nothing? What if we give them a million and really start to craft that decision as part of your rich life? Mia, can you tell me what your family said about money as you were growing up? What do you remember? \n \n00:58:50:08 - 00:59:10:03 \nMia \nI just remember do not spend. And I remember always feeling like I always wanted to spend money. I was a kid who, like, I got babysitting money. It did not go into savings. I wanted to spend it right away. And I felt I always felt like I was doing something wrong. Spending money is wrong. Like, my parents are so amazing. \n \n00:59:10:06 - 00:59:19:14 \nMia \nThey're true minimalists. Like they don't need much stuff. They will eat the exact same meal for the rest of their lives. \n \n00:59:19:15 - 00:59:20:13 \nJake \nYou would like them? \n \n00:59:20:15 - 00:59:21:07 \nMia \nYeah. \n \n00:59:21:10 - 00:59:40:07 \nRamit \nInterestingly, they also did take you to travel, and you've mentioned you would like to take your kids to travel. So a lot of similarities in how your parents raised you. Of course, the college thing paying for you, you want to pay for them makes sense. Did you ever find yourself confronting any contradictions about money? \n \n00:59:40:09 - 00:59:59:01 \nMia \nI feel like the only contradiction that we ever confronted was the fact that I didn't seem to be able to do what they were doing. Like the contradiction was they do it. They're able to do it. It doesn't seem hard to them. And for me. I'm not able to do it. It seems very hard to me like that was the contradiction. \n \n00:59:59:02 - 01:00:07:01 \nRamit \nIs it still hard? Yeah. Okay. Are they still alive? Still married? Yep. Cool. How are they with money now? \n \n01:00:07:03 - 01:00:20:12 \nMia \nExactly the same. Really incredibly responsible. I think maybe the only difference is that they're spending more on travel in their retirement than they did when we were kids, which I think rakes sense. \n \n01:00:20:13 - 01:00:22:01 \nRamit \nAre they enjoying their money. \n \n01:00:22:02 - 01:00:22:24 \nMia \n1,000%? \n \n01:00:23:00 - 01:00:27:21 \nRamit \nWow. This is a very healthy relationship in general. \n \n01:00:27:22 - 01:00:56:21 \nMia \nYeah, maybe I wish that they could have explained to me how it felt easy to them. Like what I saw was like there were spreadsheets and there was money tracking I didn't see, and they didn't talk about maybe the choices that they made, like, we could buy this, but I'm not buying it because we want to travel or like, I didn't see any of that. \n \n01:00:56:22 - 01:01:01:07 \nMia \nThey're super responsible with money. They were obviously making trade offs. \n \n01:01:01:08 - 01:01:01:16 \nRamit \nThey didn't. \n \n01:01:01:16 - 01:01:02:23 \nMia \nTell you, but they didn't tell me that. \n \n01:01:02:23 - 01:01:07:04 \nRamit \nOkay, Jake, anything that Mia's missing partners often know best. \n \n01:01:07:06 - 01:01:16:09 \nJake \nI mean, they are. They're a unit, and they are methodical. And they. Everything she said is exactly correct. It's just. It just seems flawless. They just. It seems it seems. \n \n01:01:16:14 - 01:01:18:09 \nMia \nLike they never make a mistake. \n \n01:01:18:11 - 01:01:24:10 \nJake \nLike we go over their house. I know exactly what meal we're going to get every single time. Oh, really? Yeah. It's. Yeah. \n \n01:01:24:11 - 01:01:25:05 \nRamit \nThat's interesting. \n \n01:01:25:06 - 01:01:29:24 \nJake \nYeah. And it's like they just it's very systematic. I mean, it's like. \n \n01:01:30:00 - 01:01:31:20 \nRamit \nDo you have that with your food at home? \n \n01:01:31:23 - 01:01:33:16 \nJake \nNo no no. \n \n01:01:33:18 - 01:01:39:21 \nRamit \nDo you have that with your savings. Like how did you choose the number 700. Is it methodical. \n \n01:01:39:22 - 01:01:43:06 \nJake \nNo, no. They they have they have a system where. \n \n01:01:43:10 - 01:01:43:21 \nMia \nI don't know. \n \n01:01:43:21 - 01:01:46:15 \nJake \nWhat it is. Yeah. I don't know what it is, but they definitely have something. \n \n01:01:46:16 - 01:02:11:05 \nRamit \nBut it's quite interesting, right? It's not that they are the perfect unit. It is that their behavior and attitudes are methodical. Yes. The clue is when you go over there, you know exactly what you're going to eat. That actually is a huge reveal. Yeah, that they have some type of system. It's not surface to you, but they have it just the same as if you ask me, what's my savings amount and savings rate. \n \n01:02:11:06 - 01:02:18:04 \nRamit \nThere's a reason for it. Right. And the best part of all is you all can do that for your system. \n \n01:02:18:05 - 01:02:28:10 \nJake \nAnd I think the part that I'm most envious about is how much they're willing to help their family and, like, help their kids or, you know, Mia's brother or whatever, those, those kind of situations. \n \n01:02:28:15 - 01:02:30:08 \nRamit \nBut you're helping your family a lot. \n \n01:02:30:09 - 01:02:33:12 \nJake \nYeah. And I think that maybe that's part of what the allure is to. \n \n01:02:33:13 - 01:02:35:08 \nMia \nI do think that's something we both value. \n \n01:02:35:09 - 01:02:38:15 \nJake \nI really helping out my kids when when they're older. \n \n01:02:38:17 - 01:03:02:11 \nMia \nLike when you talk about I know consciously that like the idea of paying for college 100% doesn't necessarily need to be like, it doesn't have to be 100%. Right. But like when you talk about lowering that, it makes me feel a little, you know, like, oh, I don't know if I can do that because I think there is we both have this value of like we take care of our family. \n \n01:03:02:11 - 01:03:03:17 \nMia \nLike, that should be. \n \n01:03:03:18 - 01:03:22:06 \nRamit \nSo what? So what if when I suggest which, by the way, I have not even done today. But so what if I were to suggest instead of paying for 100% of college, you pay for 90 or 80 or 50 and it makes you feel anxious and guilty. So what? \n \n01:03:22:08 - 01:03:31:21 \nMia \nWell, that doesn't feel a lot better than feeling anxious. So if I was already feeling anxious about money and you say, like, let's just trade the anxiety for guilt, that doesn't sound very good. \n \n01:03:31:22 - 01:03:54:00 \nRamit \nMy point is that just because you feel guilt does not mean that you have to follow that feeling. So sometimes it just the question is so wet, oh, I feel guilty. And yeah, I'm going to feel guilty. That's how I was trained for generations. I'm going to acknowledge that feeling. I'm going to ask, why am I feeling guilty? \n \n01:03:54:01 - 01:04:15:14 \nRamit \nOh, because my invisible script is that I have to pay for 100% of college. I'm going to write that down, and I'm going to turn the page and say, okay, I'm gonna set that aside for a minute. So what? Yeah. What if, instead of following that feeling, I followed the decision, the one that's informed by numbers, by connection, by conversation, and by a rich live vision. \n \n01:04:15:15 - 01:04:37:11 \nMia \nCan I just stop there for a second? Because that feels like a really big, like shift in my thinking. Is that idea of like. I don't think I realized how much I was letting feelings and not decisions impact the money picture. Like, I never thought of it that way. And I feel like that's exactly like you just captured it. \n \n01:04:37:12 - 01:04:42:08 \nMia \nLike I let the feelings instead of the decisions control what I'm doing. \n \n01:04:42:09 - 01:05:08:11 \nRamit \nYeah, amazing. But well done. That takes a lot of introspection to make that connection. Feelings are valid, but in my experience, way too often I'm talking over 95% of the time, people are making life changing financial decisions through feelings alone. Feelings do not come first on this. We've got to start with the vision of a rich life and then the numbers. \n \n01:05:08:12 - 01:05:16:10 \nRamit \nAnd then we can talk about the feelings. Great insight. Okay, Jake, what do you remember your family saying about money when you were a kid? \n \n01:05:16:11 - 01:05:36:18 \nJake \nMy parents were fantastic. They were so supportive. But just money was never discussed at, like, ever. I, I knew we were well off. I knew we got basically whatever we wanted, but it was just it was never I have to this day, no idea how much money we had or what they had, what they have currently. They're separated now. \n \n01:05:36:20 - 01:05:38:09 \nJake \nI've no idea. \n \n01:05:38:13 - 01:05:42:13 \nRamit \nWould you you mentioned well-off. Would you say, like upper middle class? Well. \n \n01:05:42:16 - 01:05:50:03 \nJake \nI would say. I would say upper middle class, probably towards wealthy in Midwest, in the small town that we grew up in. \n \n01:05:50:05 - 01:05:51:06 \nRamit \nThey help you with college? \n \n01:05:51:07 - 01:05:51:19 \nJake \nYes. \n \n01:05:51:20 - 01:05:53:03 \nRamit \nYes, they paid for the whole thing. \n \n01:05:53:05 - 01:06:12:20 \nJake \nYeah. I didn't really try and tell about 25. Like, I think I was kind of a late bloomer. I joke about I wasn't getting scholarships. It was just like getting into school. So they just blindly supported me, and they. And they got me. And I have had conversations with them that said, you know, we we gave you that opportunity, but you took it and run with it and ran with it. \n \n01:06:12:20 - 01:06:14:00 \nJake \nAnd that was the. \n \n01:06:14:02 - 01:06:19:08 \nRamit \nAre they going to give you money as part of an estate or inheritance? \n \n01:06:19:09 - 01:06:24:08 \nJake \nYes. I've talked a little bit about my to my dad. It's a mythical number. I don't know. \n \n01:06:24:11 - 01:06:24:20 \nRamit \nHe hasn't. \n \n01:06:24:20 - 01:06:35:16 \nJake \nTold, you know, and I've discussed a little bit with him, but it's just it, it just the way they. I have no hard feelings. I just it's just not a conversation we've had ever in 38 years. \n \n01:06:35:18 - 01:06:42:07 \nRamit \nSo what money messages do you think you are bringing from your childhood to this relationship? \n \n01:06:42:08 - 01:07:00:01 \nJake \nI think I follow every pattern of the idea of just avoid it, shut the door, pretend it doesn't exist. Like, are we rich or poor? I just love to just just ignore it. But I think that that that's something that's been really hard because I think there's a there's the fear and then the unknown. So it's just avoiding okay. \n \n01:07:00:02 - 01:07:02:01 \nRamit \nSo avoiding what about you mean. \n \n01:07:02:03 - 01:07:09:12 \nMia \nI think I watched my mom, you know, every weekend she would be on the computer doing spreadsheet. I think. \n \n01:07:09:17 - 01:07:10:21 \nRamit \nI just like, copied it. \n \n01:07:10:22 - 01:07:13:16 \nMia \nYeah. And I don't know what she was doing, but I have a spreadsheet. \n \n01:07:13:17 - 01:07:32:22 \nRamit \nShe's really funny. It's just the same thing generation after generation. It's a little ironic, isn't it, that Jake's parents are going to give him some amount of money? It sounds like it could be somewhat large. And he's afraid of money. He doesn't know what to do with it. He doesn't want to pay attention to it, doesn't want to pick up a book about it. \n \n01:07:32:23 - 01:07:54:17 \nRamit \nHe's playing defense. And yet at the same time, that is the exact same lesson they are passing on to their kids. These generational messages do not fade easily. If you do not fight to develop a new relationship with money, you're probably just passing on the one that your parents gave you. And frankly, although most parents try to do their very best, most parents didn't know what the hell they were doing with money. \n \n01:07:54:18 - 01:08:09:00 \nRamit \nSo I want you to do more. Your parents didn't have access to YouTube. They didn't have my book at their public library. They didn't have access to all this stuff for free. You do. What is your rich life vision together? \n \n01:08:09:02 - 01:08:30:11 \nMia \nI think both of us agree that in our rich life, we don't have to track every penny. I think that would be like number one for me. I would love to have that feeling I feel about the house, like I made the right decision. I'm doing the right things. That is what I want. And I think for both of us, like that is what we want to feel great. \n \n01:08:30:13 - 01:08:32:06 \nRamit \nOkay, what else is in your rich life? \n \n01:08:32:06 - 01:08:49:24 \nJake \nI would add that I think after this, just in this conversation alone, it's changed to I want to be confident in the decisions we're making. I think, you know, knowing we're doing this. And I love that the conversation about using data to make those decisions, like, right now we're just using opinions and feelings, and that's something we hate at our work. \n \n01:08:50:00 - 01:08:54:03 \nJake \nYeah. It's like, well, if we're just going off opinions, we're going to go off of mine. Then, you know. \n \n01:08:54:04 - 01:08:54:15 \nRamit \nExactly. \n \n01:08:54:15 - 01:08:55:06 \nJake \nI say that. \n \n01:08:55:06 - 01:08:55:18 \nRamit \nA lot. \n \n01:08:55:19 - 01:09:00:20 \nJake \nYes. And it's just like and we in our jobs, like we're always trying to use data to make decisions. And then. \n \n01:09:00:21 - 01:09:01:06 \nRamit \nI think. \n \n01:09:01:06 - 01:09:01:16 \nJake \nThe two of. \n \n01:09:01:16 - 01:09:21:06 \nRamit \nYou have been playing not to lose with money. I don't sense if you were playing to win right now, it's like, let's just not make a mistake and let's just put the money for the 529. Yeah. Is there anything about in the rich life, anything about. We want to get food delivery service three times a week. We want to travel. \n \n01:09:21:07 - 01:09:26:10 \nRamit \nWe want to take our kids or put them in this type of tutoring service. That's at what else? Give me specifics. \n \n01:09:26:11 - 01:09:31:06 \nMia \n1,000% the landscaping. And like the hot tub? Yep. \n \n01:09:31:07 - 01:09:33:05 \nRamit \nHow come you're saying that even though it's your thing? \n \n01:09:33:06 - 01:09:50:07 \nJake \nI agree, I think I think we I think it is like that's something that we constantly we're talking about that lately. And I think it started with your book. That's what really that I never, ever thought about what I was saving my money for. And I think that that's really kind of driven me a little bit more about like where we're saving those money. \n \n01:09:50:08 - 01:09:51:14 \nRamit \nSo you you never. \n \n01:09:51:15 - 01:09:52:19 \nJake \nI never had a thing. \n \n01:09:52:20 - 01:09:53:18 \nRamit \nYou never had a vision. \n \n01:09:53:19 - 01:09:58:01 \nJake \nNo, I would be. I just want to save money. I don't want to spend money. \n \n01:09:58:06 - 01:09:58:14 \nRamit \nI want. \n \n01:09:58:14 - 01:10:02:15 \nJake \nNot to. Yeah. Playing not to lose. I mean, that was. That was my M.O. 100%. \n \n01:10:02:17 - 01:10:09:03 \nRamit \nYou know, in life, if you do not have a vision for your money, one will be created for you. \n \n01:10:09:04 - 01:10:09:10 \nJake \nRight? \n \n01:10:09:11 - 01:10:19:03 \nRamit \nAnd that vision typically is by a big house, by a big car, et cetera, etc., etc.. And then just fast forward until you die. Actually, exactly what you. \n \n01:10:19:03 - 01:10:20:23 \nJake \nJust said. Pause and rewound. But then. \n \n01:10:20:24 - 01:10:43:13 \nRamit \nYeah, you went back and so you unwound some of that, which was awesome, but still did not replace that with a new vision. It was just like, save the money. And then Mia, your vision was first we need to have the house, etc. and then after unwound, it's like, well, I need to be doing these things that my parents taught me. \n \n01:10:43:14 - 01:11:04:22 \nRamit \nAnd so how am I going to do that? Take all the money and put it for my kids $3,000 a month? The thing about this is actually like a very loving decision. It can be seen as a very rational decision. All those can be true. But I don't think you would be here if it weren't actually causing a problem. \n \n01:11:04:23 - 01:11:08:09 \nRamit \nRight. And what is that problem in a sentence? \n \n01:11:08:14 - 01:11:10:03 \nJake \nWe don't have the money to do it. \n \n01:11:10:04 - 01:11:16:18 \nMia \nIt's making us take out of our savings. Yeah. \n \n01:11:16:20 - 01:11:18:16 \nRamit \nSo you agree we don't have the money? \n \n01:11:18:18 - 01:11:20:06 \nMia \nNot the way we're spending now. \n \n01:11:20:06 - 01:11:26:15 \nRamit \nOkay, I want to get back into the numbers. But before we do that conceptually, what do you think needs to happen? \n \n01:11:26:15 - 01:11:39:06 \nJake \nI think the number one thing is we can't spend take we cannot take money from savings anymore. Like that is our last thing. And I think I'd almost like to put more money into savings because of the fear of, you know, I think. \n \n01:11:39:11 - 01:11:40:23 \nRamit \nWhere's the money going to come from? \n \n01:11:41:00 - 01:11:47:06 \nJake \nProbably the 529 I think would be one. I think we talked about those minimal things that we talked about. \n \n01:11:47:06 - 01:11:50:01 \nRamit \nMia. What do you think conceptually needs to happen with your money? \n \n01:11:50:02 - 01:12:09:01 \nMia \nWe need to make a decision about the amount of money that we feel is right for college, and then use that decision to then make the rest of the money work. Like right now, it's just it should be 100%, but should it be like we've never actually questioned that in any way. \n \n01:12:09:02 - 01:12:14:01 \nRamit \nYeah. You never thought about the number itself. Whoa. Okay. I have to ask some questions. \n \n01:12:14:02 - 01:12:21:03 \nJake \nBecause it's that blind like that. Like you're supposed to do this, and it's like this ghost telling us that we have to do this. \n \n01:12:21:03 - 01:12:30:16 \nRamit \nWell said. It's a ghost. Probably no one has even ever explicitly said you need to be funding 100% via 529. Nobody. \n \n01:12:30:16 - 01:12:35:05 \nJake \nIf somebody would have said it would have been but Jillian Dollars, I'm like, all right, well, let's start saving work. \n \n01:12:35:09 - 01:12:37:01 \nRamit \nIt's a midwest work ethic. \n \n01:12:37:02 - 01:12:37:23 \nJake \nIt's like it's the grinder. \n \n01:12:38:01 - 01:12:57:14 \nRamit \nThe goal, and we can execute. In fact, you even asked me to do that for you today. Yes. Give me a plan and let me execute. I don't want to have to think about it. And you notice I listen. But I never accept that mantle. Because you too will have to think. And then it will make it that much more likely that you will actually follow through. \n \n01:12:57:15 - 01:12:58:10 \nJake \nYeah. \n \n01:12:58:11 - 01:13:19:24 \nRamit \nI think me and Jake have this one invisible script that is so firmly rooted in the center of everything related to their money discussions, that they just cannot see around it whenever they start talking about money. This looming ghost, as they called it, is standing right in front of the living room and it's saying, you got to pay for your kid's college. \n \n01:13:19:24 - 01:13:34:17 \nRamit \nIn fact, you have to send them every last cent you've got. On the question of the amount that you are putting aside, which is $2,700 a month for 526. Do you know how much that will turn into for your kids? \n \n01:13:34:19 - 01:13:37:05 \nJake \nYes, it's like 98 for. \n \n01:13:37:08 - 01:13:46:03 \nMia \nOur oldest because we have the least amount of time. It's because he'll be in college in four years. So that'll be like 100. About 100. \n \n01:13:46:05 - 01:13:47:01 \nJake \nIt was 98. \n \n01:13:47:03 - 01:13:49:13 \nRamit \nLet's say 100. That's fine. And then how about for the others? \n \n01:13:49:14 - 01:13:55:19 \nMia \nAnd then I think it's 130. And then for our youngest who's three, I think it's. \n \n01:13:55:20 - 01:13:56:16 \nJake \nLike 50. \n \n01:13:56:17 - 01:13:58:17 \nMia \nNo, I think it's more than I think it's like 170. \n \n01:13:58:18 - 01:14:03:04 \nRamit \nSo like, is that the right amount? \n \n01:14:03:06 - 01:14:04:02 \nJake \nI have no idea. \n \n01:14:04:03 - 01:14:04:24 \nRamit \nIt's not. \n \n01:14:04:24 - 01:14:06:23 \nJake \nAmusing is it not? Not about that. \n \n01:14:06:24 - 01:14:13:24 \nRamit \nLike shocking that you are spending almost the most on this entire sheet. I'm just looking. Is there any number higher than that? \n \n01:14:14:05 - 01:14:14:23 \nMia \nI don't think so. \n \n01:14:14:24 - 01:14:24:14 \nRamit \nYour pension. But aside from that, you are spending the most amount of money and you haven't asked yourself, is this the right amount? \n \n01:14:24:15 - 01:14:31:21 \nJake \nNo. We've never. And then we get the idea that like, well, if it just it'll transfer over the next kid or something like we just like justify without of course. \n \n01:14:31:22 - 01:14:55:06 \nRamit \nNo wonder you feel guilty. You don't know even the basic numbers. And in many ways, I think you like feeling guilt because it's a familiar feeling the minute you you sold the house, which was a momentous move, What are we doing? Put it over here for five minutes. It's like no time to stop and think and say like, what is the right decision for us? \n \n01:14:55:06 - 01:15:06:00 \nRamit \nEven though we made this huge life change? Yeah. Is 100 K right or not, I don't know. Have you talked to your kids about college funding? \n \n01:15:06:01 - 01:15:06:11 \nMia \nYes. \n \n01:15:06:12 - 01:15:06:16 \nJake \nA. \n \n01:15:06:16 - 01:15:09:02 \nRamit \nLittle bit. Was the 14 year old say what's the conversation been? \n \n01:15:09:03 - 01:15:27:22 \nMia \nThe conversation has been we can help you with public university, but we if there's something else that you want to do, you're going to have to, you know, do scholarships or loans. And I think I've talked with him too about, you know, you don't as much as possible, you know, you don't want to have debt. \n \n01:15:27:24 - 01:15:48:02 \nRamit \nCan I suggest a reframe of that conversation. Because it feels like almost every conversation that people our age, that the parents who were lucky enough to talk to us, that's how they talked. So it's like, all right got a dust off this document. All right. Here's what I can do for you. I can pay for this, but not that. \n \n01:15:48:03 - 01:15:48:12 \nRamit \nThat's all.. \n \n01:15:48:12 - 01:15:50:01 \nSpeaker 5 \nYou need to not do this. \n \n01:15:50:01 - 01:16:13:14 \nRamit \nAnd it's just like a lecture. Meanwhile, you're actually telling them something amazing. Hey, dad and I saved up this much money. We worked really hard. I want to tell you what it took for us. This is what we did. And then this happened. And we, as you know, has been so amazing for us. We went to college. We teach. \n \n01:16:13:16 - 01:16:38:01 \nRamit \nET cetera. And so when it comes time for you to get to college, we want to give you an amazing gift. And that gift is that we can fund $75,000. Now, that could be your first year. You could split it out over four years. At that point, you're an adult. It's going to be up to you. But we are going to teach you and we trust that you will make the right decision. \n \n01:16:38:02 - 01:16:43:18 \nRamit \nBut we worked really hard and we love you and we trust you. What is the difference? \n \n01:16:43:19 - 01:16:49:05 \nMia \nWell, one, it communicates the message of him being the decision maker. \n \n01:16:49:06 - 01:16:50:12 \nJake \nYes. \n \n01:16:50:14 - 01:16:52:11 \nMia \nAlso, it shows confidence. \n \n01:16:52:12 - 01:16:54:23 \nRamit \nYes. Keep going. What else? \n \n01:16:55:00 - 01:17:04:17 \nJake \nIt makes him like a collaboration. Like we're bringing him in like he's collaborative. It's part. It's work together and not like. Stop whining. I'm paying for your college. Like, totally like the message. \n \n01:17:04:19 - 01:17:09:00 \nRamit \nLike exactly what about the part about how you share what it took for you? \n \n01:17:09:02 - 01:17:15:16 \nMia \nWhat about totally different than. Than what we got? Like, that's one of the things I said I wish my parents would have done is say, how did you do that? \n \n01:17:15:17 - 01:17:16:10 \nJake \nYes. \n \n01:17:16:15 - 01:17:16:21 \nMia \nYeah. \n \n01:17:16:22 - 01:17:38:04 \nRamit \nAnd I love that you caught that. Yes. Notice that you were invisibly passing on the same message to them. Don't tell them how it happened. Because deep down, a lot of parents believe we got a shield. Our kids from money. Wrong. You get the gift of talking about money in every function at the grocery store, at a department store, and for college. \n \n01:17:38:05 - 01:17:56:17 \nRamit \nYou get the gift of talking to them about that. So flip that entire worldview. We don't get to protect them. No, that's that's not they're not weak, little fragile beings. They are strong. And and of course what this really, really, if you peel it all the way back implies we need to get good about money. \n \n01:17:56:22 - 01:17:57:16 \nJake \nSo we can share. \n \n01:17:57:21 - 01:18:15:03 \nRamit \nSo that we can share that with our kids. And guess what? It's totally okay to tell your kids. In fact, they love it when you admit mistakes. Hey, we don't actually know any of this. Yeah, we had to fly across the country, meet this guy who who lit us up, and that's why we came back and we started reading this book. \n \n01:18:15:05 - 01:18:17:24 \nRamit \nYeah. Kids eat that up. \n \n01:18:18:00 - 01:18:18:24 \nJake \nYeah. \n \n01:18:19:01 - 01:18:42:04 \nMia \nCan I tell you, like, what I'm feeling right now? Yes. Like, I had a way bigger emotional, positive, emotional response to thinking about empowering my kids with money. Then I like when I thought about saving for college. There was no feeling associated with that. But the feeling of like, I want my kids to know how to do this, like that, that's what I want. \n \n01:18:42:05 - 01:18:48:22 \nJake \nIt's like everything we believe in, in education and like building kids up. Powering power. Yes, you can handle it. And like, you're part of this. \n \n01:18:48:24 - 01:18:49:20 \nMia \nAnd I don't know why. \n \n01:18:49:21 - 01:19:00:14 \nJake \nI, I'm just thinking about, like, in 20 years, I don't want them, you know, flying to California to have your kid tell them about money, you know. So, yeah, it's like. \n \n01:19:00:15 - 01:19:29:16 \nRamit \nThat's amazing. It's funny when you mentioned that, actually, I felt my own heart beating faster. Yeah, it's very powerful. What is happening right now, especially the fact that you are both teachers, is like, you're incredibly connected to this concept of teaching and empowering. Like, I love that I'm a teacher as well, just in a different format. I actually think me, based on what you told me, it would be more empowering for you to give 30 K and teach than to give 120 K. \n \n01:19:29:17 - 01:19:32:06 \nRamit \nYeah. So what does that open up? \n \n01:19:32:08 - 01:19:52:22 \nJake \nMy mind just blown right now. I just like I like you know, we always at a phrase that I do I talk about my school is that high expectation with high support. And I have low expectation with low support. And I and like do not look at that and let's make decisions on feelings. It's like I am having the most cognitive dissonance I've had in 20. \n \n01:19:52:23 - 01:20:04:05 \nJake \nIt's just like, I like it's like this weird. You keep talking like, and this is no longer I'm not like sweat. My hands aren't sweating. It's like tingling. Feeling a little bit like that's that's really interesting. I just yeah, it's. \n \n01:20:04:05 - 01:20:07:22 \nMia \nIt's maybe like the first time that I felt, like, hopeful about money. \n \n01:20:07:24 - 01:20:09:07 \nJake \nYeah. I would agree with that too. \n \n01:20:09:08 - 01:20:11:18 \nMia \nWe just weren't making decisions. \n \n01:20:11:20 - 01:20:14:08 \nJake \nCorrect? No, we were doing everything. Was feeling based. \n \n01:20:14:08 - 01:20:19:05 \nRamit \nInvisible scripts, feelings. Yeah. And letting those guide everything. \n \n01:20:19:06 - 01:20:20:11 \nJake \nYeah. \n \n01:20:20:13 - 01:20:36:15 \nRamit \nHonestly, pretty amazing to watch this breakthrough. But what you're about to see makes this all the more magical. Because at this moment, while we were talking, we stood up to take a quick break, and I walked out of the room, but the cameras kept rolling. Take a look. \n \n01:20:36:17 - 01:20:40:24 \nJake \nI think that, like, I need to figure out the hot tub we to disconnect. \n \n01:20:41:01 - 01:21:02:13 \nMia \nBut I think with the kids, we could we could say like, guys food. We want to have healthy food. So we're going to eat pretty much the same thing every week. If there's something that you want that's different, we're going to give you a budget and you have that amount of money that you can spend a plan, a different meal, but otherwise we're going to just like every week, it's going to be the same thing because. \n \n01:21:02:14 - 01:21:03:03 \nJake \nI love. \n \n01:21:03:04 - 01:21:04:15 \nMia \nI want to spend our money. \n \n01:21:04:17 - 01:21:10:00 \nJake \nAnd I think about the point where he said, like, I'm afraid of falling on the bath, but I'm not going to put a mat down. \n \n01:21:10:02 - 01:21:12:13 \nMia \nThe other thing that I'm realizing about. \n \n01:21:12:14 - 01:21:15:07 \nJake \nThe need to talk to the kids about what's the biggest thing? \n \n01:21:15:08 - 01:21:32:14 \nMia \nYes, for sure. But I think, like when he was talking about like having a different about feelings and not decisions, like I would just look at the budget and be like, we're spending too much. That was a feeling. So then like, we just have to spend less. But then it was just like, how? Where what? There was no. \n \n01:21:32:15 - 01:21:34:18 \nJake \nLike chart. \n \n01:21:34:21 - 01:21:51:04 \nMia \nThere was no like, I want this. So that's what I'm going to do. Even though like, I knew that kind of, you know. Yeah, I don't I don't want my kids. I want to teach them. \n \n01:21:51:06 - 01:21:54:12 \nMia \nAnd I love, like how he's talking about like, hey. \n \n01:21:54:14 - 01:21:56:03 \nJake \nThe way he phrase. \n \n01:21:56:05 - 01:21:58:05 \nMia \nYes. Yeah. \n \n01:21:58:07 - 01:22:00:00 \nJake \nI'm giving you this. \n \n01:22:00:02 - 01:22:09:05 \nMia \nSo it's a gift and I'm so excited to be able to do it. Let's, let's, you know, whenever you want to look at your account, we can pull it up and see how much it's in there. \n \n01:22:09:07 - 01:22:30:10 \nRamit \nThis is why I do this podcast, and is why I am so proud that hundreds of thousands of people are here every single week to witness it. Well done. I am honored to watch this happen in front of me. Now let's get back to their numbers. The question is, what can we do to use our money to live our rich life? \n \n01:22:30:10 - 01:22:31:21 \nRamit \nWho would like to go first? \n \n01:22:31:22 - 01:22:50:16 \nMia \nI think I would like us to make a decision about, like an amount of money that we want to give the kids. And it's not hypothetical. It's not. It's like we're going to give you this much money. And then once we've made that decision and we know how much we have left each month, then we look at everything else and figure out. \n \n01:22:50:18 - 01:22:51:19 \nJake \nThat sounds awesome. \n \n01:22:51:20 - 01:22:53:06 \nRamit \nDo you have a sense of the number? \n \n01:22:53:10 - 01:23:01:10 \nMia \nMy gut right now is saying like 75,000. If that feels high, I'm open to that being lower. \n \n01:23:01:12 - 01:23:07:00 \nJake \nLet's meet in the middle and go like 60. I think that that because I was thinking 50, I think like, would that be something? Maybe. \n \n01:23:07:02 - 01:23:10:17 \nMia \nAre you okay? Are you okay with 6550, 65? \n \n01:23:10:22 - 01:23:12:00 \nRamit \n65,000 okay. \n \n01:23:12:01 - 01:23:14:01 \nJake \nIs that like a random. Like, I feel like. \n \n01:23:14:02 - 01:23:16:08 \nMia \nIt doesn't matter if it's random, because at least we decided. \n \n01:23:16:09 - 01:23:16:23 \nRamit \nYes. \n \n01:23:17:00 - 01:23:17:08 \nJake \nYeah. \n \n01:23:17:09 - 01:23:19:02 \nRamit \nGreat. Great great great. \n \n01:23:19:06 - 01:23:23:06 \nJake \nSo do we get I mean, would you then adjust and go back and it's. \n \n01:23:23:06 - 01:23:26:22 \nRamit \nLike what I'm going to try to do right now. So we know the age of your kids 14. \n \n01:23:26:23 - 01:23:28:01 \nMia \n11 and three. \n \n01:23:28:02 - 01:23:30:14 \nJake \nAnd your ex is contributing some to. \n \n01:23:30:15 - 01:23:36:22 \nMia \nThat is true. Is that their dad? It's a smaller amount, but 15,000 per kid. \n \n01:23:36:23 - 01:23:57:02 \nRamit \nOh, okay. So he'll contribute 15,000 for the two kids, the older kids. And then you want to get a total of 65,000. Let's look at the rest of this. We ran some calculations and we'll speak broadly. It will change specifically as you dive into your own numbers. But in general, what we found is that you need to be saving. \n \n01:23:57:03 - 01:23:58:03 \nRamit \nYou want to guess. \n \n01:23:58:04 - 01:24:00:02 \nJake \n2300? Okay. \n \n01:24:00:07 - 01:24:00:16 \nRamit \nWhat do you. \n \n01:24:00:16 - 01:24:02:11 \nMia \nThink, 1900. \n \n01:24:02:12 - 01:24:04:08 \nRamit \nGood. It's about 1600. \n \n01:24:04:10 - 01:24:05:19 \nJake \nOkay, that's a lot. \n \n01:24:05:20 - 01:24:06:23 \nMia \nThat's a lot less. \n \n01:24:06:24 - 01:24:07:22 \nRamit \nA lot less. \n \n01:24:07:22 - 01:24:09:03 \nJake \nAbout half. Yes. \n \n01:24:09:08 - 01:24:32:12 \nRamit \nYeah. And the reason that you can save less and still hit your numbers. One, you've lowered the amount, although you didn't really even know how much you were saving anyway. Right. But two, your oldest obviously needs more because they're going to be going to college in just a few years. Your youngest has almost decades. So that number is like way less that you need to be putting. \n \n01:24:32:13 - 01:24:56:12 \nRamit \nSo when we combine it all, it's about 1600 a month. Again, the number will change depending on several variables. You should calculate this carefully at home. So let's put that in 1600. That's a lot from 2700 to 1600. Yeah. Okay. So let's take a look at what's going on here right now. We have 57% in fixed costs. We have your investments at 22%. \n \n01:24:56:13 - 01:25:11:06 \nRamit \nThat is your post-tax. Well, that's your pension. Yeah $1,600 a month going towards the kids, and then you've got 700 bucks going towards your emergency fund, leaving you only 4% in guilt free spending. \n \n01:25:11:08 - 01:25:15:18 \nMia \nYou know how you recommended like separating groceries and gas. Can we just, like, do that? Yeah. Okay. \n \n01:25:15:19 - 01:25:17:23 \nRamit \nHow much is gas? \n \n01:25:18:00 - 01:25:19:20 \nMia \nProbably 200 a month. Yeah. \n \n01:25:19:21 - 01:25:20:06 \nJake \n200. \n \n01:25:20:07 - 01:25:23:19 \nRamit \n200. I'm moving gas up here to 609. \n \n01:25:23:24 - 01:25:29:09 \nMia \nAnd then I think we can get the groceries and gas. I think we can get groceries to 800. \n \n01:25:29:10 - 01:25:29:19 \nRamit \nYeah. \n \n01:25:29:20 - 01:25:30:23 \nJake \nAll right. \n \n01:25:31:00 - 01:25:34:07 \nMia \nWe put the subscriptions down already. \n \n01:25:34:09 - 01:25:36:15 \nRamit \nWhat's this? Miscellaneous. \n \n01:25:36:17 - 01:25:40:04 \nMia \nI, I actually think that we don't. \n \n01:25:40:05 - 01:25:40:16 \nJake \nHave. \n \n01:25:40:16 - 01:25:46:13 \nMia \nTo do that. Like, I think we could, like, if miscellaneous was half of that. All right. Because. \n \n01:25:46:13 - 01:25:59:08 \nRamit \nOkay, let's do that. 600. Yeah. All right. You are down to 52% outstanding. Okay. Very good. You've got 9% or $1,216. \n \n01:25:59:09 - 01:26:05:01 \nMia \nI feel okay with that because in a year we won't have preschool and that will free up another. \n \n01:26:05:02 - 01:26:05:18 \nRamit \nOh, let's. \n \n01:26:05:19 - 01:26:06:10 \nMia \nLook at it. \n \n01:26:06:12 - 01:26:25:14 \nRamit \nI like it. Let's let's zero that out and see what happens. Are you ready? Yeah. So this is this is what the CSP is most powerful at is projecting ahead when you pay off debt like credit card debt, when you pay off a mortgage, when you don't have preschool anymore. It's like, let's just look at our crystal ball a few months in the future. \n \n01:26:25:15 - 01:26:46:10 \nRamit \nBoom, here we go. You're at 52% fixed costs. I'm zeroing out your preschool. Whoa! Down to 43%. That's extremely low. Going down now. Y'all have 18% guilt free spending or $2,400. What do you think about that? \n \n01:26:46:11 - 01:26:47:01 \nJake \nThat seems like. \n \n01:26:47:02 - 01:26:47:13 \nMia \nIt. \n \n01:26:47:15 - 01:26:52:22 \nJake \nFeels really good. That's really good. That's the the rich life. The idea of being able to spend. \n \n01:26:52:23 - 01:26:55:04 \nRamit \nOkay. Now let's talk about it. Because what do you want to do with that money? \n \n01:26:55:05 - 01:26:57:20 \nJake \nI'd like to put more into savings. I think. \n \n01:26:57:23 - 01:27:04:16 \nMia \nI would feel most comfortable if we had six months of, say, like liquid money. \n \n01:27:04:17 - 01:27:12:14 \nRamit \nYeah. So that's about 30, 35,000, let's just say. So how much do you want to put into savings. \n \n01:27:12:16 - 01:27:13:24 \nJake \nPer 1000? \n \n01:27:14:01 - 01:27:15:22 \nMia \nAt least a thousand. \n \n01:27:15:24 - 01:27:17:01 \nRamit \nYou're putting 700, right. \n \n01:27:17:03 - 01:27:19:19 \nMia \nWe do like 1200. Yeah 1400. \n \n01:27:19:20 - 01:27:20:04 \nJake \nDouble it. \n \n01:27:20:05 - 01:27:25:05 \nRamit \nYeah. All right. I like that 1400 a month, which is great. \n \n01:27:25:06 - 01:27:26:06 \nJake \nYeah, that feels really good. \n \n01:27:26:07 - 01:27:36:18 \nRamit \nThat now leaves you with $1,700 a month guilt free spending. Yeah, that's pretty cool. What would you do with that? Guilt free spending money? \n \n01:27:36:22 - 01:27:40:22 \nMia \nI'm trying to decide if it's travel first or house first. You'd say house. \n \n01:27:40:22 - 01:27:41:03 \nJake \nFirst. \n \n01:27:41:08 - 01:27:42:14 \nMia \nHouse first. I'm okay with that. \n \n01:27:42:15 - 01:27:56:01 \nRamit \nGreat. So let's do this. Let's call instead of vacations, which sounds like you're not prioritizing. Let's call it house. And let's put let's put 750 a month. Let's just see what happens. 750. \n \n01:27:56:02 - 01:27:57:01 \nJake \nOne feels quick. \n \n01:27:57:02 - 01:28:01:19 \nRamit \nYeah. So how long would you need for you to be able to get something for the house? \n \n01:28:01:20 - 01:28:04:22 \nMia \nWell, let's say we just started with a hot tub that's probably like six months. \n \n01:28:05:01 - 01:28:05:10 \nRamit \nSo that's. \n \n01:28:05:13 - 01:28:06:07 \nJake \nLike a year, a year. \n \n01:28:06:08 - 01:28:07:12 \nRamit \nA year. Yeah. Are you cool with that? \n \n01:28:07:13 - 01:28:08:01 \nJake \nYep. \n \n01:28:08:02 - 01:28:20:09 \nRamit \nGreat answer. Yep. Amazing answer. I just want to point something out to you. Most people, when I say like it'll take a year, sometimes it'll take seven years to get what they want. And I go, are you okay with it? They go. That seems like a long time. I go and. \n \n01:28:20:10 - 01:28:22:01 \nJake \nRight. So what? Right. \n \n01:28:22:02 - 01:28:38:14 \nRamit \nEverybody should be looking. Look, get tight on this shot. So what? Oh, it's going to take a long time, and you're going to be seven years older anyway. In seven years, you might as well have a ton of money, right? A year from now, that's nothing to be able to get this awesome hot tub and to have saved for it. \n \n01:28:38:14 - 01:29:00:23 \nRamit \nNo debt. Amazing, right? Okay. 750 a month that leaves you with $1,000 a month guilt free eating out. Random thing you saw on Amazon that you want to buy. But that's it. Yeah. And I personally would prefer you. Clear. Leave a little bit of like, do not get to $1,025. Yeah, right. \n \n01:29:00:24 - 01:29:01:15 \nJake \nRight. \n \n01:29:01:17 - 01:29:05:00 \nRamit \nClear it with room to spare. Can you all agree to that? \n \n01:29:05:01 - 01:29:12:02 \nMia \nYes. Yes. And I would love some like, specific strategies for like like when people are doing that. How to. \n \n01:29:12:02 - 01:29:12:14 \nJake \nDo it. Yeah. \n \n01:29:12:19 - 01:29:29:14 \nRamit \nSo the biggest thing that comes up here and surprises people is eating out. Eating out is a variable cost, and it's one of the very few numbers I suggest people track. Here's how you do it to make it even easier. You. Just like I said, people who tend to be successful with grocery store shopping tend to basically by the same thing all the time. \n \n01:29:29:16 - 01:29:52:19 \nRamit \nSame thing with eating out. They go, okay, we are going to spend $400 a month eating out, okay? Each time we eat out, on average, this is how much we can spend. And so let's even reverse it. One more. How many entrees do we get our. We getting a drink or two or just none. You already know every month where you are going to go out to eat and what you're going to order. \n \n01:29:52:20 - 01:29:54:02 \nRamit \nIt's that boring. \n \n01:29:54:03 - 01:29:54:23 \nJake \nI like that. \n \n01:29:54:24 - 01:29:57:10 \nRamit \nPeople like they really do not like this. They're like. \n \n01:29:57:16 - 01:29:58:23 \nSpeaker 6 \nTakes all the fun out of it. \n \n01:29:58:23 - 01:30:18:08 \nRamit \nI'm like, but it's actually really fun when you know that on Fridays pizza and, like, you're looking forward to it, you know, you get to think about it, you're talking about it. And then when you go there, you, you, you get to experience it like two times. One is planning it, thinking about it, talking about then two while you're there. \n \n01:30:18:09 - 01:30:26:17 \nRamit \nYeah. So yeah, you may not have as much serendipity, but didn't you both tell me you want to not have to worry? \n \n01:30:26:23 - 01:30:31:20 \nJake \nYeah. And that's the thing. Yeah. And that's a that's more than the other one. \n \n01:30:31:22 - 01:30:34:16 \nRamit \nExactly. And now you have a plan and you can just execute it. \n \n01:30:34:17 - 01:30:36:00 \nJake \nYeah I love it. \n \n01:30:36:01 - 01:31:03:07 \nRamit \nGood question. Great question. If we zoom out of these numbers, are you living your rich life? Often when we are fiddling with numbers, we're down in the weeds. And I always like to zoom out and be like, hey, does this actually feel good if we if we execute on all this stuff flawlessly? Are we actually living our rich life, or did we just mechanic our way into moving numbers around in another way? \n \n01:31:03:08 - 01:31:05:17 \nRamit \nSo do you all like this as your rich life or not? \n \n01:31:05:20 - 01:31:28:10 \nJake \nI absolutely do, and I think that having a plan and I think that through this conversation, part of my rich life is not stress of pulling from savings. And I think that that like I've re calibrated a little bit in a way of understanding it. And I and I'm like, now I'm trying so hard to not go straight to approaches and like how I'm going to do this, this, this. \n \n01:31:28:10 - 01:31:40:13 \nJake \nBut it's like I'm already like planning afterwards, like what the app's going to look like. And I think that that is going to be helpful, like knowing we know exactly what day we're going to go out to. And that is part of my rich life. And I've talked with that with me about those kind of things. \n \n01:31:40:14 - 01:31:43:09 \nRamit \nAnd how do you feel is this living your rich life? \n \n01:31:43:11 - 01:31:54:24 \nMia \nYeah. And I think especially because I think I was confusing saving for college with preparing my kids for the future, and those aren't the same thing. \n \n01:31:55:00 - 01:32:19:06 \nRamit \nGreat insight, great insight, if anything, dumping a bunch of money on kids. I mean, it helps them with avoiding some amount of debt, but it doesn't teach them much. Right. You both are examples of that. And so you changing the generational messages you received, you know, in general you receive very good messages, which is nice. But because of the benefits your parents gave you, you can raise the bar on what you give your kids. \n \n01:32:19:06 - 01:32:23:11 \nRamit \nThat's amazing. What surprised you about our conversation today? \n \n01:32:23:13 - 01:32:46:11 \nJake \nMy biggest thing is how I'm perpetuating so much of what I had as my own childhood of money, being in how I've gone against every belief I have about using data, building capacity, trusting our kids, and how just because I was scared of something, I've been like the worst version of myself around. Money, I think, is probably what I would describe it as. \n \n01:32:46:12 - 01:32:55:09 \nJake \nAnd I think that was very I opening today. And I think, like you said, is digging in. I'm starting to feel a little bit more comfortable digging in if there's an actual goal there. \n \n01:32:55:10 - 01:32:56:24 \nRamit \nNice. Beautiful. Mia. \n \n01:32:57:00 - 01:33:17:15 \nMia \nI think my biggest surprise was that confusion between giving the kids money versus preparing them for money. Like, I did not think about it like that at all. And that feels so that just like I feel so much lighter. \n \n01:33:17:17 - 01:33:40:16 \nRamit \nYeah, yeah, I can see that that that specifically, I think probably because of your professions and the way that you relate to your kids like that really connects. And that's beautiful. Yeah. That's beautiful. What about resentment? When we began talking, there was a difference in how you looked at money. Do you think there will be resentment about money ongoing? \n \n01:33:40:17 - 01:33:57:21 \nJake \nI don't feel like it because I think that, like, I feel like a weight has been lifted off our chest of taking from the savings. And I think that if we're if we follow our plan, which I know we will like, once we get a clear plan and have steps to it that we'll do it, that it's not going to be like, all this hard work isn't from nothing. \n \n01:33:57:22 - 01:34:10:12 \nJake \nIt's all this hard work is so that we're setting up for everybody to thrive and kind of do that, as opposed to saving, setting up all this hard work so that it can just all go to this big lump of money that we don't even know we haven't thought about. Great. \n \n01:34:10:12 - 01:34:31:16 \nMia \nI absolutely do not think that there will be resentment. And I think one of the reasons is that we have a way to make a decision that we feel good about, and when we do that, there won't be resentment because we made the decision together. And that difference between letting feelings, guiding our money instead of decisions, guiding our money. \n \n01:34:31:17 - 01:34:46:14 \nJake \nAnd that resentment or the resistance came from a lack of clarity and a lack of understanding. So I didn't want to dive in because it didn't make sense to me. And now I kind of like seeing you go through the numbers and like, we can do that, like that. That makes sense. Other than just clicking numbers on a keyboard. \n \n01:34:46:15 - 01:35:09:15 \nRamit \nTotally. There's a purpose behind it. Yeah, I have a lot of confidence in them. Mia and Jake were so open with the feedback that I gave them so willing to engage, that I think they're actually going to do an amazing job. For years they have been talking around making decisions, and I help them immediately make some of the biggest decisions of their financial life. \n \n01:35:09:16 - 01:35:22:02 \nRamit \nWatching them light up when they talk about getting their kids involved. That was when I knew this is going to stick, so I cannot wait to hear what they end up doing. Let's take a look at their follow ups. \n \n01:35:22:04 - 01:35:28:17 \nMia \nHey Ramy, it's Mia and Jake and we just wanted to follow up with our homework. \n \n01:35:28:19 - 01:35:38:17 \nJake \nOur biggest surprise, for me at least, is be unwritten rules that I followed that were really guiding my past and I wasn't really diving deep into them. So it was really fascinating exploring that. \n \n01:35:38:19 - 01:35:52:04 \nMia \nMy biggest surprise is how much better I felt, even though we're standing less for college, and that's because we feel really aligned in the belief that we want to teach our kids about money, not just give them money. \n \n01:35:52:06 - 01:36:05:05 \nJake \nMy biggest takeaway is it doesn't matter how much money we have, I'm always going to have to be concerned with money. I used to think that if I could just keep making more and more money, eventually I wouldn't have to worry about it and all my problems would go away. But that's not the case. And I'm good with it because we have a purpose and a process. \n \n01:36:05:05 - 01:36:06:04 \nJake \nNow for that. \n \n01:36:06:05 - 01:36:31:12 \nMia \nMy biggest takeaway is that we are finally aligned in the way that we talk about money, and that is aligned in our values. So we just feel really connected and it doesn't feel stressful anymore. We've made a few specific changes. So now that we know how we want to spend our money, it's been so much easier to go through our subscriptions and our just regular expenses and say like, yes, we want to keep doing that. \n \n01:36:31:13 - 01:36:41:20 \nMia \nNo, we don't want to do that. So it's probably like the biggest change that we've made so far is just really starting to audit our spending and say, like, keep doing it, stop doing it. \n \n01:36:41:21 - 01:37:02:21 \nJake \nWe have confidence in doing so. And that makes the biggest difference. So we just want to say thank you so much. We're so lucky that you guys took time to meet with us. Me, it's Jake and Mia here. We just got back from vacation and I actually enjoyed it because for the first time ever, I knew where our money was coming from and how much money we had and how much money we could spend. \n \n01:37:02:21 - 01:37:05:01 \nJake \nSo it really took a lot of the fear out of it. \n \n01:37:05:05 - 01:37:28:21 \nMia \nYeah, we've had two of our money meetings so far, and those are the first two conversations we've ever had as a couple about money that did not feel contentious. It actually felt like we were on the same team working forward, and it's allowed us to be super intentional with our money, which I think is one of the biggest shifts for us is we're not necessarily spending less. \n \n01:37:28:22 - 01:37:35:19 \nMia \nWe're just really investigating why we're spending what we're spending and then choosing to do it with much more intentionality. \n \n01:37:35:21 - 01:37:51:09 \nJake \nYeah. And I and I've really realized how we have to be consistent. You know, we can't just miss certain things, but it's definitely worth it because I'm no longer a grumpy old man on vacation. I'm so grumpy. But at least I know where the money is coming from. So we just want to thank you so much. \n \n01:37:51:11 - 01:37:53:05 \nMia \nThank you so much. It was life changing. \n \n01:37:53:06 - 01:37:54:22 \nJake \nAbsolutely. Thank you. \n \n01:37:54:24 - 01:38:12:04 \nRamit \nIf you want to know the exact month and year that you will have $100,000 in your investment portfolio, sign up for my new program, road to 100 K. I'll help you hit that number fast. Go to 100 K to sign up. \n<\/pre>\n<\/div>\n