{"id":326397,"date":"2025-11-25T05:24:45","date_gmt":"2025-11-25T10:24:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/episode-236-she-spent-5k-behind-my-back-how-can-i-trust-her"},"modified":"2025-11-25T05:24:49","modified_gmt":"2025-11-25T10:24:49","slug":"episode-236-she-spent-5k-behind-my-back-how-can-i-trust-her","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/episode-236-she-spent-5k-behind-my-back-how-can-i-trust-her","title":{"rendered":"Episode 236. \u201cShe spent $5K behind my again. How can I belief her?\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div readability=\"82.631446540881\">\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/mInUqhm5sHY?si=TQSBfSuGbEdGUmLb\" width=\"100%\" height=\"400\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">\ufeff<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Alex (34) and Jackie (33) have been married for 11 years, raising four young kids while navigating a financial dynamic that\u2019s been strained for nearly as long. Alex is meticulous and cautious \u2014 he\u2019s tracked every expense since 2016 \u2014 while Jackie follows her instincts and believes God will provide. But when she secretly enrolled in a $5,000 coaching program and later pushed for a $16,000 photography course, Alex\u2019s trust shattered. Now he feels like he\u2019s carrying the entire financial load, while Jackie feels discouraged and untrusted. Their arguments spill into daily life, even in front of their kids. Can Ramit help them rebuild trust, confront their conflicting money beliefs, and finally create a system that brings peace instead of panic?<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><b>In this episode we uncover:<\/b><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Why Alex has tracked every dollar since 2016\u2014and how control became his default coping strategy<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Jackie\u2019s belief that \u201cmoney will come\u201d and the role faith plays in her financial decisions<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">How a secret $5,000 coaching purchase shattered Alex\u2019s sense of safety<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">The emotional toll of raising four young kids while constantly feeling financially behind<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">How Jackie\u2019s childhood of scarcity and inconsistent money messages shaped her impulse-driven spending<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">How Alex\u2019s upbringing around saving, stability, and tithing taught him to equate control with security<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Why relying on miracles and unexpected windfalls creates a fragile financial foundation<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Jackie\u2019s desire to feel heard, supported, and validated\u2014instead of managed<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Why Alex feels lonely and burdened in the role of financial gatekeeper<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">How a shared money system can shift them from crisis-mode to long-term partnership<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 300;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">The first steps they take toward rebuilding trust, financial clarity, and a plan they can both commit to<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4><b>Chapters:<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:00:00) <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cDo you trust each other?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:17:40)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cWe had $300 and no plan\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:29:15)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Ramit breaks down their numbers<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:37:15)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cIf we just made more, everything would change\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:50:52)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cI wasn\u2019t taught to dream \u2014 just to survive\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(00:58:53)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cHope isn\u2019t a financial strategy\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(01:07:33)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cI want the positive behavior without the crisis\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(01:16:36)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cThe house is on fire\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(01:29:07)<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201cThat changes <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">everything<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">(01:36:56)<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> Where are they now? Alex and Jackie\u2019s follow-ups<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><b>This episode is brought to you by:<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Gusto | Try Gusto at <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/gusto.com\/ramit\">https:\/\/gusto.com\/ramit<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> and get 3 months free when you run your first payroll<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Leesa | Go to <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/leesa.com\/\">https:\/\/leesa.com<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> for 30% off mattresses PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code RAMIT, exclusive for my listeners<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Factor | Go to <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/factormeals.com\/ramit50off\">https:\/\/factormeals.com\/ramit50OFF<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> and use code RAMIT50OFF to get 50% off your first box, plus free breakfast for 1 year<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Rocket Money | Cancel unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster at <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/rocketmoney.com\/ramit\">https:\/\/rocketmoney.com\/ramit<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">Trust &amp; Will | Protect what matters most in minutes at <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/trustandwill.com\/ramit\">https:\/\/trustandwill.com\/ramit<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\"> and get 10% off plus free shipping<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><b>Links Mentioned In This Episode:<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 300;\">If you want help with your finances, join my Money Coaching program at <\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/iwt.com\/moneycoaching\">https:\/\/iwt.com\/moneycoaching<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<h2 aria-level=\"2\"><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Transcript<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;134245418&quot;:true,&quot;134245529&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559685&quot;:2010,&quot;335559737&quot;:2010,&quot;335559738&quot;:375,&quot;335559739&quot;:375,&quot;335559740&quot;:768}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/drive.google.com\/file\/d\/17cSF5A11J26OKwGPMNYTj-1aL_PMQ7V2\/view?usp=sharing\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Download the full transcript PDF<\/span><\/a><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;335559685&quot;:2010,&quot;335559737&quot;:2010,&quot;335559738&quot;:150,&quot;335559739&quot;:150}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[00:00:00]\u00a0<\/span><b>Ramit:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Previously on\u00a0Money for\u00a0Couples.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com\/236-alex-jackie\/?utm_source=rss&#038;utm_medium=rss&#038;utm_campaign=236-alex-jackie\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\ufeff Alex (34) and Jackie (33) have been married for 11 years, raising four young kids while navigating a financial dynamic that\u2019s been strained for [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[2380,2382,2381],"class_list":["post-326397","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","tag-alex","tag-jackie","tag-ramit"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/326397","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=326397"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/326397\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":326399,"href":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/326397\/revisions\/326399"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=326397"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=326397"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=326397"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}