{"id":293570,"date":"2024-03-08T19:31:11","date_gmt":"2024-03-09T00:31:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/the-more-you-know-these-polite-habits-are-actually-rude"},"modified":"2024-03-08T19:31:32","modified_gmt":"2024-03-09T00:31:32","slug":"the-more-you-know-these-polite-habits-are-actually-rude","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/the-more-you-know-these-polite-habits-are-actually-rude","title":{"rendered":"The Extra You Know: These Well mannered Habits Are Truly Impolite"},"content":{"rendered":"


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Most people do their best to practice politeness and be considerate. Unfortunately, we all have different definitions of what is polite, and some \u201cpolite\u201d habits can rub people the wrong way. Knowing what bothers different people is impossible, but considering your habits from a new perspective can help you avoid crass and presumptuous behavior that puts people off. <\/p>\n

1. Arriving Early<\/h2>\n
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This \u201cpolite\u201d habit is particularly loathed by party hosts, as it can catch them off-guard before they\u2019re ready. Arriving significantly early to most things can be rude, whether it\u2019s a date or a spin class. It can make other people feel rushed or guilty for not being as early as you, so arriving 30 minutes before the planned time can be as rude as showing up late.<\/p>\n

2. Overapologizing<\/h2>\n
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If you hurt someone, it\u2019s always kind to say “sorry.” However, it can be frustrating when someone apologizes constantly for every tiny thing. Overapologizing can make the recipient feel guilty for making you feel guilty, irritate them, or be taxing on them to frequently have to reassure you.<\/p>\n

3. Oversharing<\/h2>\n
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Sharing personal details is how we get to know people and connect over shared interests, experiences, or traits. However, it can make people severely uncomfortable when you unload your life\u2019s story on them upon first meeting. It can even be rude to share unpleasant things with acquaintances.<\/p>\n

4. Overcomplimenting<\/h2>\n
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While compliments are usually intended to be kind, they can also be rude and annoying. Overcomplimenting someone can seem disingenuous or make them uncomfortable. Also, some people don\u2019t appreciate compliments on their physical appearance or mood at all, as these comments can feel invasive.<\/p>\n

5. Fighting Compliments<\/h2>\n
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It\u2019s okay if you don\u2019t like compliments, but rebuffing a compliment is rude to someone just trying to be nice. People may also see the rebuff as fishing for more compliments and validation. Self-deprecation may seem better, but it just makes everyone feel awkward.<\/p>\n

6. Cheek-Kissing, Hugging, and Handshaking<\/h2>\n
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People have been greeting others in these ways for centuries, but with our modern understanding of germs, lots of people hate touching strangers or even acquaintances. Unfortunately, some consider rejecting these things rude, while others think it’s rude to be forced into physical touch.<\/p>\n

7. Group Email Replies<\/h2>\n
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Most people get dozens of emails a day, if not more. So when you reply \u201cthanks\u201d or \u201cgot it!\u201d to everyone listed on a group email, it\u2019s irritating and unnecessary, clogging up people\u2019s inboxes. It\u2019s best to either not reply or only email the original sender.<\/p>\n

8. Freeform RSVPs<\/h2>\n
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Snail mail has mostly become a thing of the past. But it’s best to follow instructions when you\u2019re asked to RSVP a certain way, even by snail mail. Skipping the RSVP protocol<\/a> and sending a text or email to confirm your attendance can make things difficult for the host.<\/p>\n

9. Holding the Door Open<\/h2>\n
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This chivalrous action is meant to be thoughtful and considerate, but it can add a strange pressure to the person heading toward the door. It can make them feel rushed or awkward as a stranger waits for them to reach the threshold. Try to only hold the door for people right behind you.<\/p>\n

10. Pulling Out a Chair<\/h2>\n
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Pulling out someone\u2019s chair for them is an antiquated habit that many don\u2019t like anymore. It can feel invasive when a stranger does it, like a restaurant host. And when someone you know does it for you, it can feel condescending and uncomfortable.<\/p>\n

11. Saying “No Worries” or “No Problem”<\/h2>\n
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Not everyone finds this rude, but some take offense when you reply like this. They feel that by saying these phrases, you\u2019re implying that it was something that would\u2019ve been a problem or worry. It may seem silly, but certain people are bothered by these responses.<\/p>\n

12. Giving Unwanted Help<\/h2>\n
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Insisting on helping someone who didn\u2019t ask or refused your assistance can be rude on many levels. It can imply they\u2019re incapable, make things more difficult, or make them uncomfortable. Whether it\u2019s a stranger carrying their groceries or a dinner host<\/a> cleaning up, be conscious of how your help may be perceived.<\/p>\n

13. Clearing Dishes Early<\/h2>\n
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People eat at different speeds, which is fine, but cleaning or clearing the table while someone is still enjoying their food can make them feel rushed or like they were only there for the food. Rather than stacking dishes or taking them away the moment you\u2019re finished, sit with the person eating until they\u2019re done.<\/p>\n

14. Asking Lots of Questions<\/h2>\n
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Asking someone questions about themself shows you\u2019re interested in them, but too many questions can come off as intrusive and creepy. Interrogating someone, whether a new friend, coworker, or partner, can make them uneasy, so try to keep your questioning appropriate and reasonable.<\/p>\n

15. Offering to Pay<\/h2>\n
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Depending on the situation, offering to pay for someone can be considered presumptuous and offensive. It\u2019s hard to know when it\u2019s okay to pay and when it\u2019s a bad idea, but it usually depends on your relationship with the person and what you\u2019re offering to pay for.<\/p>\n

16. Giving Unprompted Directions<\/h2>\n
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No one likes a backseat driver! Unless you\u2019re the leader in this situation, let the navigator do their job, and don\u2019t belittle them by offering unsolicited directions, help, or advice. In particular, don\u2019t tell drivers how to drive or point out things like stop signs and yield signs, which they probably saw too.<\/p>\n

17. Pretending You Can Hear Someone<\/h2>\n
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We\u2019ve all been there; someone says something to you, but you don\u2019t hear it or can\u2019t understand it. It can be frustrating and awkward, so nodding or saying \u201cokay\u201d can be the easy way out, but it implies you don\u2019t care about what they\u2019re saying or assume it\u2019s unimportant.<\/p>\n

18. Giving Surprise Gifts<\/h2>\n
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Some people love a surprise gift, but others see it as an obligation or burden. They may feel bad they don\u2019t have a gift for you or feel obligated to buy one. Unless you know this person loves a surprise gift or treat, check with them before getting them something or set expectations.<\/p>\n

19. Joking With Service Staff<\/h2>\n
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Making a lighthearted joke when ordering your morning coffee or getting a beer at a bar may seem kind and friendly, but it usually forces the worker to give you a fake laugh and wastes their time. Service staff are not there for you to workshop your stand-up material, so don\u2019t subject them to bad jokes.<\/p>\n

20. Showing Up Sick<\/h2>\n
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Once upon a time, people were seen as tough or dedicated when they showed up to work or an event sick. While canceling plans or calling out sick can seem rude<\/a> or wrong, it\u2019s far more inconsiderate to show up with an illness and make others sick.<\/p>\n

21. Leaving Elaborate Voicemails<\/h2>\n
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Frankly, listening to a long-winded voicemail with important information is a chore. In general, voicemails are annoying, but voicemails that include crucial details, like phone numbers, names, locations, dates, times, and more, force the recipient to listen closely and write everything down. Just send a text.<\/p>\n

22. Calling People’s Phones<\/h2>\n
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People born before 1990 are more likely to make a phone call rather than send a text. So, it\u2019s normal among certain age ranges, but most people born after 1990 find phone calls rude because they demand you give the caller your immediate attention. Unless it\u2019s an emergency, a text is better, even if it\u2019s just to ask them to give you a call.<\/p>\n

23. Waving on Cars or Pedestrians<\/h2>\n
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Ultimately, waving someone on at a four-way stop breaks the rules of the road. When people do things like this, it slows down traffic and causes unnecessary confusion. Rather than stopping at a green light to let someone cross, just adhere to the traffic laws so everyone is on the same page.<\/p>\n

24. Tagging People on Social Media<\/h2>\n
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Tagging someone on a social media post may not seem like a big deal, but it can be impolite. For example, tagging a person in a photo featuring alcoholic drinks may get them in trouble at work. Or tagging a friend on a promotional post spams their phone and involves them in something they did not agree to. Just ask permission before adding a tag!<\/p>\n

25. Saying “Yes” to Everything<\/h2>\n
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People pleasers aim to satisfy everyone and come off as perfectly polite, but being a chronic yes-man can frustrate others. It can make someone feel like they’re forcing you to do a favor or that your opinions are substanceless because you just agree with everyone.<\/p>\n


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