{"id":292009,"date":"2024-02-26T22:12:41","date_gmt":"2024-02-27T03:12:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/how-to-be-popular-my-true-journey-from-nerd-to-netflix-host"},"modified":"2024-02-26T22:12:57","modified_gmt":"2024-02-27T03:12:57","slug":"how-to-be-popular-my-true-journey-from-nerd-to-netflix-host","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.etrafficlane.com\/60dollarmiracle\/how-to-be-popular-my-true-journey-from-nerd-to-netflix-host","title":{"rendered":"How To Be Well-liked (my true journey from nerd to Netflix host)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div readability=\"109.132859066\">\n<p style=\"color: inherit;\">Remember: It\u2019s not \u201cUGH small talk makes ME feel\u00a0<u>awkward<\/u>,\u201d but rather\u00a0<strong>\u201cI\u2019m doing them a favor by talking to them.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Why? Imagine yourself at a party. Nobody\u2019s really talking to you so you just fade into the background. Right before you pull out your phone so you\u2019re not just standing there like a loser, somebody comes up to you and says, \u201cHey, I\u2019m John.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0AWESOME! If that happened, you\u2019d feel so grateful to John for walking up to you and engaging \u2014 because it\u2019s way less awkward to not do anything than to take that first step.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0This also implies a confidence in yourself, another key ingredient to charisma and popularity. You don\u2019t need a clever line or funny statement \u2014 your name and a plain spoken \u201chey\u201d is engaging.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0As long as you remember that you\u2019re doing them a favor by talking to them, it makes the process MUCH easier.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Conversation starter #3:\u00a0<strong>\u201cHow do you know X?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0A while back, I was at a friend\u2019s\u00a0<u><a href=\"https:\/\/iwillteachyoutoberich.com\/3-proven-steps-anyone-can-take-to-become-rich\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">birthday party<\/a><\/u>. When I showed up, it turned out that I didn\u2019t really know very many people there. So instead of hanging off of my friend the entire party and monopolizing her time, I simply went around to everyone I didn\u2019t know and asked, \u201cSo how do you know Michelle?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0It turned out that was a fantastic conversation starter because we were all there to support our friend Michelle. And from that one line, I was able to learn so much about the people I was talking to.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Look, I get it. It\u2019s really hard sometimes to just make the first jump into a conversation. However, if there\u2019s already a shared connection between you and the other person, the process becomes much easier. This also directly leads to popularity \u2014 connecting with many people!<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Capitalize on any shared connection then. Variations on \u201cHow do you know X?\u201d can be things like:<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Who do you know here?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Why are you at this party\/event\/convention?<\/li>\n<li>How long have you been doing X?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3 id=\"h-keep-the-conversation-going\">Keep the conversation going<\/h3>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Once you start the conversation, congrats! The hardest part is done.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0However, that doesn\u2019t mean you should just sit back and let the other person do all the work for you. If you don\u2019t make sure to keep the other person engaged and ask\u00a0<u><a href=\"https:\/\/iwillteachyoutoberich.com\/great-conversation-questions\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">thought provoking questions<\/a><\/u>, it\u2019ll be easy to let the conversation die.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0To that end, you can be an active listener and ask great questions based on their answers.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0When you watch people who are really socially skilled converse, they will ask a question, listen, and then make a statement based on that answer.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0If you\u2019re still confused, a solid rule of thumb is to ask 2-3 questions and then make a statement as well.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0When you\u2019re talking to someone, think to yourself, \u201cWhere can I add value? What connections can I draw between us?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Take a look at the two examples below. Can you see why one is bad and the other one is good?<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>Bad example:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>You:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cWhere are you from?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>Them:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cMichigan.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>You:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cHow long have you been there?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>Them:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cTwo years.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>You:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cOh, do you like it?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>Them:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cYeah, I really like\u2014\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>You:<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cWhat brought you here?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0TERRIBLE. This conversation is entirely hypothetical and I\u2019m still cringing. You\u2019re not involving yourself in the conversation \u2014 and as a result, you\u2019re not adding value. All this does is make you seem like someone who simply asks questions. Don\u2019t do this.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>Good example:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>You:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cWhere are you from?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>Them:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cMichigan.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>You:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cOh, I\u2019ve been to Michigan before. I actually grew up in Phoenix but live in Chicago \u2014 pretty close by.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>Them:\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cOh, really? How long have you been there?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0BOOM. Now you\u2019ve successfully engaged this other person and established a connection with them \u2014 all by sharing something simple about yourself.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0#5:\u00a0<strong>D<\/strong><strong>on\u2019t worry too much about body lang<\/strong><strong>uage<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0People have come up with all sorts of weird tricks for improving your body language. Google \u201cbody language,\u201d and you\u2019ll learn all sort of interesting new words: mirroring, foot direction, power posing. Stuff nobody in the real world cares about or notices.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0The only thing you really need to remember is SETHE.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Yes, named it after myself. No I don\u2019t regret it for a moment. Why? Because the system WORKS. SETHE goes like this:<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>Smile.<\/strong>\u00a0If you\u2019re not used to smiling, it can feel totally unnatural. Practice letting your smile \u201cfill your face.\u201d I used to videotape myself speaking to find out I wasn\u2019t smiling enough. It gets easier once you start practicing.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Energy.<\/strong>\u00a0Take whatever level you\u2019re at, and add 50% more energy into your voice and movement. What feels weird to you is NORMAL to everyone else.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Talk slowly.<\/strong>\u00a0Slow down what you\u2019re saying by 50%. It will feel sluggish, but this is perfect for everyone else. Enunciate your words to help slow down. Young Ramit got way ahead using this one tip.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Hands.<\/strong>\u00a0Experiment with your hands to find your comfort zone when speaking. How do you feel when you leave yourself more \u201copen,\u201d or gesture more?<\/li>\n<li><strong>Eye contact.\u00a0<\/strong>Study how socially skilled people use eye contact. How long do they look at someone? Where do they look after disconnecting? By testing, you\u2019ll find what works for you.<\/li>\n<\/ul><\/div>\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com\/how-to-be-popular\/\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Remember: It\u2019s not \u201cUGH small talk makes ME feel\u00a0awkward,\u201d but rather\u00a0\u201cI\u2019m doing them a favor by talking to them.\u201d \u00a0Why? Imagine yourself at a party. 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